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Choices

Anoni Grrl April 13, 2017 2:20 pm

I have seen a few comments about how it may be confusing because the survivor seems to enjoy the abuse (or at least love the abuser). This story is a little different than a story about adults in an abusive or complicated relationship. I like to look at the survivor's choices and desires even though that doesn't make abuse okay--but in this case, what choices does a middle school kid have? The legal system in that country seems to have given children a restraining order but provided no social services or child protection to assure they have food, a safe place to stay, and adult supervision. What's the kid supposed to do? Work at a Nike factory? And of course he loves the new abuser--who else does he really have? He's a kid.

So while this is still fiction, and I like the story, this one is not a case of an adult making choices other people don't approve of or enjoying a relationship others find unhealthy (and not even BDSM with fictional liberties to set the scene). The fact that there are children involved changes everything. This one is more of a sad story.

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    Anon April 13, 2017 2:50 pm

    I know, it's actually making my eyes damn bloody roll when they say ignorant stuffs like he should have just left the brother or something. They do even realized that seeing the abuse being done to you isn't that ez pz? The one being abused, has been isolated and feels that everyone other that their abuser has ingrain in their mind that no one wants to help them cause they're useless etc.. etc.. They're thinking the lines that they're useless and no one wants to help them, or basically just turning into a blind eye in hopes that the one they love (the gentle one) is still there ans sticks to them. I've read countless abuse stories from both genders alike in real life or the ones from the net. and somehow I can now finally, even just a small proportion of perspective see why the abused stay from their abusers.

    *Sorry for any bad grammars. My English isn't that good.

    Anoni Grrl April 13, 2017 3:00 pm
    I know, it's actually making my eyes damn bloody roll when they say ignorant stuffs like he should have just left the brother or something. They do even realized that seeing the abuse being done to you isn't th... @Anon

    Your English is fine. : ) I think the lack of good choices is even more apparent when the survivor is a child. Children can't think like adults, even mature ones who speak like adults at times. That's why telling an 11 year old to study hard so he can get good grades, go to college, and have a great career is never as effective as telling the child he can't have electronics (games, Internet, whatever) until you check his homework and see that it was done well. They can't think long term in the same way as adults, and their brains have not yet fully developed the frontal lobes where higher-order thinking takes place. So, all of the other factors aside (and I grant those are important), a kid *can't* think like an adult--and he certainly does not have the resources or options of an adult. That's why he is an abuse survivor and not a true "M" even in the sense of a story.

    But I do like the story. I'm not complaining about the content. I am just saying the dynamics are different when it's children. Then again, it's doing that yoai thing where high school kids act like little adults and everyone is fine with that. Sure, it's cool that two kids live alone and have no adults--the teachers and uncle and everyone are going to just nod and say they hope everything is okay--because kids can make those choices, right? It's yoai logic. :)

    Anonymous April 13, 2017 4:41 pm
    Your English is fine. : ) I think the lack of good choices is even more apparent when the survivor is a child. Children can't think like adults, even mature ones who speak like adults at times. That's why tell... Anoni Grrl

    Not only the teacher and those in the story. Girls reading this stories without an ounce of sense.