I also have that problem....I have two older siblings... older brother, and oldest sister. I'm the youngest in our family but it feels like I'm the one who has to take care of them....I'm the one who cook, do the laundry, clean the house, (so that my mother would not have to clean too much after she gets home...I don't want her to be stressed)
But then my siblings won't care...they are always playing LoL and doesn't even help much on the cleaning...my sister helps me sometimes....but my brother doesn't just really cares...
My brother already graduated on college, our mother usually confronts him to get a life (he's like a neet) but she says it too...nicely I guess? She says she doesn't want my brother to....um like...leave the house? Like on a bad way of leaving...
Then she would always boss me around to do this and that....and when she has problems...she would blame it to me....if she can't find her keys...she would yell at me....after she gets home...she would yell at me....if she sees a dust on the floor..she would always say that
" You always use your phone, why don't you always clean?? Do I have to do it myself?!". Even though I was the one who does the cleaning.....and even if she cleans...she would always call me and boss me around...so it counts as I'm the one who's REALLY CLEANING AND NOT HER
So I usually cry on the bathroom...I can say the bathroom's my best friend at times.....hahahahaha, though I love my mother...I just can't handle her at times
I also have that problem....I have two older siblings... older brother, and oldest sister. I'm the youngest in our family but it feels like I'm the one who has to take care of them....I'm the one who cook, do the laundry, clean the house, (so that my mother would not have to clean too much after she gets home...I don't want her to be stressed)
But then my siblings won't care...they are always playing LoL and doesn't even help much on the cleaning...my sister helps me sometimes....but my brother doesn't just really cares...
My brother already graduated on college, our mother usually confronts him to get a life (he's like a neet) but she says it too...nicely I guess? She says she doesn't want my brother to....um like...leave the house? Like on a bad way of leaving...
Then she would always boss me around to do this and that....and when she has problems...she would blame it to me....if she can't find her keys...she would yell at me....after she gets home...she would yell at me....if she sees a dust on the floor..she would always say that
" You always use your phone, why don't you always clean?? Do I have to do it myself?!". Even though I was the one who does the cleaning.....and even if she cleans...she would always call me and boss me around...so it counts as I'm the one who's REALLY CLEANING AND NOT HER
So I usually cry on the bathroom...I can say the bathroom's my best friend at times.....hahahahaha, though I love my mother...I just can't handle her at times ┗( T﹏T )┛
Straight up sit them down and talk to each of them separately about this issue but do not raise your voice and do not let them raise theirs...calm them down if they tell...say we're having a conversation not a fight
yeah, same. i also the youngest in my family and i feel like im also the one taking care of my big bro.
i tried to confront them but my mother scolded me saying that i dont have respect and my brother didn't care at all that's why instead of fighting back, i just shut my mouth and cry with myself
thanks guys, i feel kinda ease in your replies and in sharing this. feels like a weight came down on my shoulder
If you want you could talk to them...tell them you're feelings/problem
I once taught it's really unfair, even now...but I think them being like that has is a positive thing for me...since I get to know how to take care of people.....so once I get to live on my own...or have a family....I at least know how to live right?? I'm gonna use my problem as a tool to live and survive without them..
I get to be independent...though I'm still quite annoyed/mad at them ahahaha
thanks hahhaha
Thank you too, I get to share my feelings too
i know that this is not related to this site but can i share something? i dunno..... i feel agitated....kinda depress... and kinda mad about my mother and my big bro. i dont know why my mother keeps on putting the fault of my big bro and blames it on me. i don't know why my mother yells at me and blames me the fault of my brother instead of him.... i don't know why my mother blames me first of my brother's fault and then constantly rants about his problem at me until she tires out at yelling at me and proceeds on scolding my brother but in a calm and nice way while for me, she keeps on scolding me and yelling at me saying 'why i don't clean my room or the house', 'why i dont do some housework', 'why i don't make the bed every morning', 'why i ''keep on using my laptap''..... but the truth is, my brother is the one who doesn't clean his mess or his room and he doesn't do any housework while i'm constantly cleaning the house everyday and i always make the bed and i don't use my laptap because i dont have, i only have a phone while him, he has laptap and tablet. i know that he's my brother who i get along with the yaoi world since he also likes to read but denies that he's a fudanshi but i hate that he doesn't care about me being scolded by my mom and doesn't admit that it's his fault and lets me being scolded by our mom. he just lets mom scolding me while he use his laptap. just like today, he made a mess in the living room, his books are on the floor and he didn't swept the floor so i called my brother to clean it up since he didn't do anything but my mother scolded me on why i didn't clean it up when i was in the living room and i said ''but i'm not the one who made a mess, it was broth--'' but then my mother shouted at me and said, ''how about you clean that mess up, you're just going to use your gadgets anyway. CLEAN THAT!''. i didn't fought back but i was looking at my brother and i saw my brother using his laptap pretending not to hear anything and didn't bother to clean his mess. he just continued in using his laptap for god-knows-what-reasons.
i don't know why my mother is 5x extra nice when it comes to my brother and tolerates his attitude when he's already in his 17 and a senior so of course he should change or be mature a bit but he didn't. i don't know.... i wanna run away from this house.... i don't want to keep on crying with myself in my room silently...... i want my brother to change and my mother to scold my brother like she scold me. i don't know..... maybe there is no justice in my house........ i feel lonely and alone........