Oh my goodness! Even if she's your sister she has no roght to act like your god... i hope i can give you an advice to make it better but i can't :(
Hope you can overcome this
Have you talked to your parents about this? She could have seriously injured you. It's not tattling. This is a big deal. You don't deserve that, and it doesn't sound safe.
She doesn't mean to hurt me, just when she does she doesn't care. I have told them, but people usually brush it off since we're kinda like twins.
Thank you! You're comment makes me feel better already! (=・ω・=)
She got angry with you and pushed your dresser onto your foot, but doesn't mean to hurt you?
Does she have a temper problem? Have you tried having a heart to heart with her when she is not in the heat of the moment and angry?
Try ignore her and distance yourself. She might think that she won't be alone because she would have you. So she's acting spoiled.
(︶︿︶)＝凸 This is a manga site not about you life
Again don't like it don't read it (╬￣皿￣)凸
You should use it for you're own reason and I'll use it for mine. Let's respect each others actions! (づ￣ ³￣)づ
It's a people site if yu don't like what's being said skip the convo asshole people these days with no damn compassion (︶︿︶)＝凸
How old are you guys now?
It doesn't matter if she's your twin. Rage or no rage, she has no right to wreck your stuff, and you have a right to live without fear of property destruction. Given that your parents are brushing off your concerns, you need to take a hard and honest look at your situation, start thinking like an adult and be proactive.
I don't know the extent of the aggression that has been directed toward you. Destruction of property is certainly unacceptable, but violence directed against you physically is another matter entirely. Here are the strategies I would discuss with clients during crisis intervention:
(1) Be unflinchingly honest about your own behaviour and its role in the dynamic between different members of your family. Are you absolutely sure there isn't passive-aggression on your part? No goading or undermining? No missing homework pages or hidden library books? No disloyal backbiting and breaking of confidences to friends and relatives?
I don't need to know the answers to these questions. Nobody else needs to know the answer EXCEPT YOU.
Nor is it an excuse for her behaviour.
Just be aware that, if you deliberately target other people's peace and security, they will retaliate. So, if you are doing it, modify your own behaviour.
(2) Learn to communicate effectively. Read up on it. There are many books and techniques. Discuss your communication skills with friends, relatives and parents. Find out where you need to improve. Learn how to disarm people.
If this is a normal level of family dysfunction, then those two strategies alone will probably deal with most flare ups. If the aggression and violence is more dangerous and unpredictable, then you need more tactics:
(3) Keep a journal which can be admitted as a court document. A password-protected blog is a good idea since it isn't a physical object that someone can destroy. Keep an accurate record of all threats, aggression and violence, including dates, times, places, names of witnesses and basic facts about the circumstances. Do not include hyperbole or overstatements. Do not make excuses, justifications or try to rationalize anything. Just keep to the bare bones facts: what was said and done in sequence, who said and did it, when and where it happened. Why it happened is not always so relevant. If you must include it, be as brief, concise and clear as possible.
(4) Create a safe zone. A safe zone won't protect you from someone who has gone completely berserk, but it will stall them long enough, maybe, for you to get out of the house safely. And it could protect your stuff from sabotage.
Save your money, buy a good lock with a key, install the lock on your bedroom door and keep the key on a chain around your neck. Keep your house key on that chain as well. Tell your parents about your plans to install this bedroom door lock if you must, but don't ask permission. For whatever reason, they have abdicated responsibility for protecting your property, so you need to take that on yourself. Handle all other concerns and considerations of theirs without conceding your right to a peaceful and safe space.
What does that mean? If you aren't already completely responsible for everything that happens behind that barricade, you will need to be. This means, do all your own laundry, bedding and cleaning. No eating or drinking in there. No loud noises. Shut down activities after 9 pm. Keep the room meticulously clean and tidy so you aren't attracting vermin, that sort of stuff. If you have responsibilities like chores and homework, meet them. No excuses. Because if you give anyone an excuse to break down that barricade, they will.
Also, for your own sake, make sure that you have some sort of safety escape system in case of fire or another emergency. So, a window that you can open fully, a rope ladder if you need to climb down a storey or two.
(5) Setting up a safe space is more than just a locked bedroom door. It means good friendships and collegial relationships. It means not being isolated. Nurture your friendships with thoughtful and kind gestures. Be considerate and true.
Find part-time work: babysitting, shelving books at the library, mowing lawns, shoveling snow from walks, anything suitable for your age and physical abilities. Work hard and develop good relationships with the people who hire you. Be responsible for both the results of your work, and for the money you earn at those jobs. Save it. Learn to avoid impulse shopping. It may save you.
(6) Set up a plan of action. Do you have any relatives or friends who you can trust to put you up for a couple of nights to a week if things get really ugly?
Keep a suitcase/overnight bag packed and ready in your room just in case, although you may not have time to collect it if someone assaults you directly. That's okay. Just make sure it's ready so that you can come back and collect it if necessary.
Invest in one of those purses with the long straps that you can keep your wallet, housekeys and phone on you at all times. Like your keys, never leave it lying around. Make sure you always have sufficient cab/Uber fare to get to your safe house, just in case you need to make a quick escape. Keep your safety contact person's phone number and the phone number of the cab company on speed-dial on your phone.
... But maybe you don't have a friend or relative you can depend on. In that case, get in touch with community support services. Maybe your family physician can put you in touch with an agency. Maybe phone the community outreach number for your police station and explain that you don't know if you will never need this help, but you're worried enough to develop a strategy just in case you ever do. See if they can put you in touch with a social worker. Find out if there are any emergency shelters in your area. Contact them and see how they can help you help yourself.
(7) Call the cops! Seriously. If someone attacks you, forget everything else. RUN away ... barefoot into the snow if you must. Go to a neighbour's house and bang on their door if you must, and ask them to call the cops if you don't have anything on you. Keep running until you get help. Don't wait around for someone in a mindless rage to hurt, maim or kill you.
(8) Learn self-defense. Get physically fit and strong. Learn how to block, how to roll, how to target weaknesses and blind spots. Learn how to use anything as a shield or weapon if you are attacked.
So, because I don't know much about you, I don't know if this information is over-the-top. You will have to go through it objectively, and see what applies. Most issues can be handled with effective communication and behaviour modification. The rest need a little extra planning.
Good luck!
I think you should tell your parents. It's bad that she doesn't care when you get hurt because it means she won't be careful in the future. And it is ridiculous for people to brush it off. The idea that it's alright for her to abuse you because you are close in age is just wrong. No siblings have the right to abuse the other. I can only see this getting worse. And you can't get over something that's still going on. If your parents won't help ask teachers. Someone needs to stop her.
Woah that's for one serious domestic violence case. I think her sister is just some immature spoiled kid, and she's more mature by not fighting back stupidly.But I think yours is helpful for serious situation.
If she keeps hurting you maybe you should tell your parents, properly. There's no need to call a cop, they'll laugh at you unless she solidly threatens your life. Your sister needs someone to discipline her. But if my older sister yelled at me I would've yelled back, or punch her if it will make her shut up. But it's your call, make your own smart choice how to tame that sister of yours.
Has everyone missed the comment where she explained that she HAS spoken to her parents and they've brushed her off? So ...
*nods* Yes, that is a crisis intervention plan for domestic violence, which is laid out in a series of steps from mild to serious response. I've also explained, at several places in the plan, that she needs to look at her situation objectively and decide which steps fit, and take appropriate action for the circumstances that she is in. She has described temper tantrums and destruction of property. Has her sister crossed over into physical abuse? Because that is domestic violence.
Do you have a teacher or school counselor you trust that you can talk to?
My sister and I are one year and exactly 4 DAYS apart. We always shared everything, but she's older and so damn mean. She treats everyone the same except for me, making me do everything for her and if I don't, I'm punished. One time she was sleep, and our cat opened her door, and I walked by. She told me to close it, but I ignored her and told her to do it herself, but then she started yelling and shit. Once I got in my room I was laying down, but she busted in my room and pushed my dresser over. My clothes were everywhere because it was cheep and it crushed my foot. I feel so fucking done with it all and she always ends up making me cry. Do you know how I can get over this? I feel like I'm always losing to her...