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I Thot You Was a Toad
September 18, 2017 1:28 am

Who's a chihuahua now, Bexan?

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I Thot You Was a Toad
September 17, 2017 1:41 am

BL for health education, god help him!

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I Thot You Was a Toad
August 17, 2017 5:42 pm

I need to say this. Stockholm Syndrome is one of the great romance plot devices, but it isn't real, just like rape in romance literature isn't real. It's bunkum.

The American Psychiatric Association does not list Stockholm Syndrome amongst its pathologies and disorders. It does not recognize the syndrome. This is for sound reasons. It isn't because the evidence was not examined. It was amply scrutinized. The rejection was based on that evidence was incomplete, incorrect (distorted) and ultimately used to harm, rather than support, victims and survivors of violence.

So, if you want to read stories about frail, helpless Cinderellas and Cinderfellas who fall in love with their abusive Gonad-Scratchers, go ahead! Scratch that itch all you like. Get off in your fantasies, but don't go around saying Stockholm Syndrome, like it comes across in fiction, is anything like what victims of violence experience.

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  • Cetagandane
    August 18, 2017 12:09 am

    I don't really know where you're going with this. Trying to debate (moreover you seem pissed?) in a yaoi website is pretty much useless.
    As wtf said, of course it isn't listed in the DSM, well... because it's not a disorder, it's a subtype of traumatic bonding.

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    August 18, 2017 4:28 am
    I don't really know where you're going with this. Trying to debate (moreover you seem pissed?) in a yaoi website is pretty much useless.As wtf said, of course it isn't listed in the DSM, well... because it's no... Cetagandane

    Nope. It's about setting the record straight. Too many readers of yaoi claim "Stockholm Syndrome" for the romantic trope of ukes falling for abusive semes, as though the traumatic bonding that you describe (less actual bonding so much as calculated risk assessment and management tactics under the covert guise of friendship and intimacy) is the same thing.

    Also, it wasn't listed in the DSM because Berjerot's thesis has been largely invalidated in subsequent studies. For one thing, he didn't bother to interview the subjects of his investigation, in particular the survivors of the Normalmstorg event and Kristen Enmark. When they finally told their side of the story, it was very clear that their actions were driven by very different motivations, fears of incompetence and endangerment by the police, not romantic feelings at all. Their emotional states and somatic responses more closely align to PTSD.

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    August 18, 2017 4:45 am
    I don't really know where you're going with this. Trying to debate (moreover you seem pissed?) in a yaoi website is pretty much useless.As wtf said, of course it isn't listed in the DSM, well... because it's no... Cetagandane

    Also, not pissed, but definitely experiencing an urgency to stop the correlation of romantic tropes too closely to a syndrome which has been used to pathologize behaviour of survivors of violence, one which makes them appear crazy for, either, reacting to immediate or recent trauma, or "playing for an end game" with their best chances at survival with the best information, experience and resources they have at their disposal. The fact that yaoi is fiction matters.

  • Slyboots August 18, 2017 5:04 am
    Nope. It's about setting the record straight. Too many readers of yaoi claim "Stockholm Syndrome" for the romantic trope of ukes falling for abusive semes, as though the traumatic bonding that you describe (les... I Thot You Was a Toad

    I feel the same way. In the school where I work, there have been rare incidents of child abuse. Children protect their parents because they don't know anything else, and they believe they would literally die if they don't. The abuser is better than what a child imagines as the alternative, but children are shattered in the process.

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    August 18, 2017 5:23 am
    I feel the same way. In the school where I work, there have been rare incidents of child abuse. Children protect their parents because they don't know anything else, and they believe they would literally die if... Slyboots

    Most school systems have intervention procedures in place with trained professional to deal with suspected cases of abuse and neglect in such a way that children are not traumatized further. If it is necessary to remove children, they will do so.

    I'm trying to parse your last sentence since you surely don't believe that children should remain in harm's way (which is what it almost sounds like you've written.) Do you mean that they protect their abusers because they can't imagine anything better, and that this experience tears them apart? (I'm assuming that's what you mean.)

  • Cetagandane
    August 18, 2017 11:18 am
    Nope. It's about setting the record straight. Too many readers of yaoi claim "Stockholm Syndrome" for the romantic trope of ukes falling for abusive semes, as though the traumatic bonding that you describe (les... I Thot You Was a Toad

    I don't really get what you're saying 'nope' to, since you didn't contradict me; don't create a straw man please.
    I agree w/ you; so many pseudo psychologists tried to make a thesis about Stockholm syndrome (among many others subjects), without verifying the facts beforehand, because they knew the hype would bring them readers. I already acknowledged it isn't a disorder. But inappropriate generalization wont change the fact that there are real-life occurrences:
    https://skeptoid.com/episodes/4493 (both Brian Andrew Dunning and Dr. Steven Novella are skeptics than I learned to trust through the years)
    And of course it can lead to PTSD in extreme cases.

    Regarding the yaois readers... well I do hope most of us know how to separate fiction from reality.

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    August 18, 2017 3:56 pm
    I don't really get what you're saying 'nope' to, since you didn't contradict me; don't create a straw man please.I agree w/ you; so many pseudo psychologists tried to make a thesis about Stockholm syndrome (amo... Cetagandane

    I was noping the "you sound pissed?" question.

    In terms of your final remark about hoping that most yaoi readers know how to separate fiction from reality, the only reason I brought it up in the first place is to address that problem. There must've been a run of manga with abusive lover themed stories, because there has certainly been a run of comments from readers who---while they do not necessarily confuse all yaoi with real life---are certainly confused about Stockholm Syndrome and have certainly correlated the yaoi misrepresentations with real life occurrences.
    It is exactly this misrepresentation which readers are taking away, time and again: "This really happens", "We learned about this in school", "This is real" ... I mean, for goodness sake! Sure, I have a tendency, when frustrated, to cry out, "Stop it!" Hence, the absolutisms in my initial comment.

    Now, you agree that the syndrome is not a disorder, but that is certainly how it is represented in yaoi (as manifesting outright bipolar or schizophrenic). As your author pointed out, it is also not a valid medical subject, and, although I like Skeptoid magazine and read up on evolutionary psychology, that particular angle is inadequate. This, especially since the author seems to feel it sufficiently handles the issue of the syndrome's lack of inclusion in the DSM. I defer to peer-reviewed publications with a broader approach to mental health and society, also available online [Wade, et al; some 90 other publications], because of Berjerot's incomplete research and the way his evidence is distorted to embed systemic misogyny. I defer to them because the consequences of this distortion, in terms of continued harm to people who have already been badly hurt, are very difficult to unstitch and heal. The entire comment thread was to intended to spark some conversation about a much more complex set of behaviours than yaoi tends to present.

  • Cetagandane
    August 18, 2017 6:49 pm
    I was noping the "you sound pissed?" question. In terms of your final remark about hoping that most yaoi readers know how to separate fiction from reality, the only reason I brought it up in the first place is ... I Thot You Was a Toad

    There's nothing I could disagree with in you answer, and I haven't read enough yaoi to know about the PTSDs described. Thanks for clarifying my misunderstanding of your previous post, and for your sources.

  • Cetagandane
    August 18, 2017 7:13 pm
    I was noping the "you sound pissed?" question. In terms of your final remark about hoping that most yaoi readers know how to separate fiction from reality, the only reason I brought it up in the first place is ... I Thot You Was a Toad

    *clearing

  • Slyboots August 23, 2017 2:52 am

    I meant that children lie for their abusive family members because they are too scared to think of life without them.

I Thot You Was a Toad
June 28, 2017 6:00 pm

Here are all the reasons why, if you have something worthwhile to contribute to a discussion, you need to create and sign in to an account in order to put a consistent identity behind your words.

Long-term members, here, are relatively known quantities. People get a sense of who they are dealing with. We get to know what to expect from certain names-and-icons. We get to know who shows humour, intelligence, compassion and understanding, who makes spelling mistakes, has writing tics, what some of their tastes are in manga. A sense develops of ages, cultural backgrounds, education, careers, family, past tragedies and mistakes, the things that make them happy, who’s sweet, fierce, subtle, passionate, friendly, lusty, hilarious, has a strong sense of fairness. We know who has a temper and who has a big ego *raises hand*. We know who steals lists and copies reviews. We know who uses bots. It all shows up over time.

Whereas, you … who are you? Seriously. WhoTF are you? Because, as long as you’re anon, you’re the same person as Llort and Hoera-the-Sexplorer and all those assholes who post fake news and revenge porn, sell rohypnol and elephant tranquilizers online, bully teenagers into suicide, and organize crime and terrorism. As somebody pointed out to me yesterday, anonymous chooses to ellide his/her identity into a monolith of all anons, a Leviathan, which means the best anon is only ever as good as the worst anon, and nothing can be done to elevate the worst anon, because the worst anon is only around for the Lulz or worse.

“Judge me only on what I say!” Anon cries. Me, I, only I, I am. Except, that requires individuality, and anon has already eschewed that. The soul is missing. The fate of his or her contribution to the discussion is undermined by every other anon in that monolith, including those who are demonstrably mentally ill, violent, septic with hatred and bigotry, whiny about privilege, butthurt and with a big ax to grind from being exposed as a dickhead, or just eaten alive by envy, pride and malice.

This is because anonymous indicates something to hide, and people here have seen it all: sock puppet theatre, upvote rigging, baiting people into religious/anti-religious intolerance, suppressing dissent, threats of doxxing. It doesn’t matter if anon has clever words or things of value to share. Anon hides from light and exposure, so all worth is lost.

“Everybody on this site is Anon.” Anon blusters. Yes, but no. After time, we get to know each other and get a sense of what to expect. We notice who just signed up, who hasn’t read any manga, who only ever posts during peak troll. Whereas you …

Even if you know your views are unpopular and will probably set off a shitstorm, sign up and sign in before you post them. Otherwise, you’re just ….

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  • mrl98
    June 28, 2017 6:52 pm

    Personally, I know some people who find it a big hassle to create an account, they're not too deep into manga but they sometimes comment. That's totally fine. I myself sometimes post in anon state when at work, since it's like 30 mins and leaving too much bother to sign in.
    Thing some people don't want to create an account for various reasons.
    This site needs to IPban some trolls and we will be free (hopefully)- or activate a feature where a topic/comment with more than -10 will get deleted automatically.

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    June 28, 2017 7:01 pm
    Personally, I know some people who find it a big hassle to create an account, they're not too deep into manga but they sometimes comment. That's totally fine. I myself sometimes post in anon state when at work... mrl98

    There was a down-vote feature. It didn't delete, but it covered the comment. That got rigged.

    I know there are reasons why people want to stay anon. Good reasons. Reasons they don't need to justify to anyone. Even just because they want to.

    All I'm saying is, posting as an anon means you get lumped in with every asshole who wants to stay anon because they're assholes.

  • mrl98
    June 28, 2017 7:06 pm
    There was a down-vote feature. It didn't delete, but it covered the comment. That got rigged. I know there are reasons why people want to stay anon. Good reasons. Reasons they don't need to justify to anyone. E... I Thot You Was a Toad

    you're right. I stopped posting as an anon because of this, I hope others will consider the state of the site and create an account.

  • tokidoki
    June 28, 2017 7:29 pm

    Words of wisdom here, my friend. Anon/Anonymous posters complain when they get sass back at them, but they do not necessarily need to make an account, my friend Nonni (yeah, that's really here name) does not have an account, but always comments using that name, and is thus recognized.
    Having an account when you request recommendations is useful as people can check your reading list to see what you enjoyed in the past, and it helps for notifications and such, but there are some longtime Finder posters (like Reality Bites) that do not log in either but she is still recognizable.
    Anon posters need to be aware that they get lumped with the trolls and haters though.

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    June 28, 2017 8:12 pm
    Words of wisdom here, my friend. Anon/Anonymous posters complain when they get sass back at them, but they do not necessarily need to make an account, my friend Nonni (yeah, that's really here name) does not ha... tokidoki

    I recognize Nonni. I've conversed with her as anony-Nonni (which, with a hey and a ho, sounds Shakespearean.) I've also read comments by Reality Bytes.

    This isn't about suppressing anonymity, agitating to have IP addresses posted, or singling people out. There are some readers who come to this site who would be crucified if hostile members of their family, colleagues, neighbours or local secret police ever figured out they were posting here. I don't want to deprive them of anonymity or the freedom to comment anonymously. But if they do, and people with borderline antisocial personality disorders also happen to be trolling anonymously on the thread around the same time, then that's who they are. Even if it isn't.

  • EldrichAngel
    June 28, 2017 8:22 pm

    The anon option is supposed to be for people with anxiety. Not mask for bullies to hide behind.

  • MOI?
    June 28, 2017 9:03 pm

    i have to point out a big mistake of yours... you forgot the "fluffy" category... *sniff* just sayin' ( ̄へ ̄) (*feeling left out*)

  • dragonlady June 28, 2017 9:07 pm

    Agreed, I find it difficult to trust anons, god knows who they are. Of course there are some longtime anons who are recognizable but they can be imitated too.

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    June 28, 2017 9:22 pm
    The anon option is supposed to be for people with anxiety. Not mask for bullies to hide behind. EldrichAngel

    The anon option is for whatever anyone wants it to be. For some, it's a matter of simple freedom. For some it's life and death. For some, it's because they can't be arsed to sign in. There doesn't have to be a reason.

    One funny example I had pointed out to me was where an anon adopted a "voice of reason" as one identity, and then, a whole Greek Chorus of anonymous assholes as others. They must've gotten tired after awhile because they slipped up and it became obvious that they were—all of them—the same person. And the big argument 'they' were defending was that 'they' should be judged on the meaning of 'their' words, not on 'their' identity. Why, then? If you (universal you, not personal you) have a reasonable and rational argument, why not just state it and leave it to be judged for what it really is, instead of trying to manufacture a nonexistent consensus of opinion? If the argument has merit, then it doesn't need agreement. It can just stand on the validity of its premises. Instead, this particular troll undermined his whole thesis by letting his multiple masks slip. Anyway, that's just an example.

    I tend to look at the culture of trolling when it appears, especially on site like this where we have people from so many different countries and where the subject matter is fraught with actual danger for some people's safety and livelihood. It is a tool for suppressing dissent. It is used to send a chilling effect on discourse and protest. It is about imposing authoritarian values. When you have trolls on a site making life difficult for individuals or just in general, then people start discussing how to impose identity from outside the site, by revealing IPs, for example. That kills off the chance for participation for people who can't access TOR, etc.. That's why I think it's important to establish a personal body of discussions, arguments, even outright flame wars if one must, as a brand.

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    June 28, 2017 9:27 pm
    Words of wisdom here, my friend. Anon/Anonymous posters complain when they get sass back at them, but they do not necessarily need to make an account, my friend Nonni (yeah, that's really here name) does not ha... tokidoki

    What happened to my response to you? It keeps popping up and then disappearing?

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    June 28, 2017 9:30 pm
    i have to point out a big mistake of yours... you forgot the "fluffy" category... *sniff* just sayin' ( ̄へ ̄) (*feeling left out*) MOI?

    Sorry, I had you under "vicious man-eating brute" behind the same bars as KyoNaZa. Back, you monster! Back. *cracks whip*

  • tokidoki
    June 28, 2017 9:31 pm
    What happened to my response to you? It keeps popping up and then disappearing? I Thot You Was a Toad

    Not sure. maybe it is getting deleted? This is the first response I have seen, but I have been away from the computer for a while ...

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    June 28, 2017 9:31 pm
    Agreed, I find it difficult to trust anons, god knows who they are. Of course there are some longtime anons who are recognizable but they can be imitated too. dragonlady

    *nods* It has certainly happened before. On this site, it even happens to the trolls.

  • tokidoki
    June 28, 2017 9:34 pm
    i have to point out a big mistake of yours... you forgot the "fluffy" category... *sniff* just sayin' ( ̄へ ̄) (*feeling left out*) MOI?

    Ah, Polito , here is some snax and a drink ... (please leave clothes on, it is chilly today)

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    June 28, 2017 9:36 pm
    Not sure. maybe it is getting deleted? This is the first response I have seen, but I have been away from the computer for a while ... tokidoki

    Weird. Okay ... nope, there it is again. Above Eldritchangel's comment.

  • MOI?
    June 28, 2017 9:37 pm
    Sorry, I had you under "vicious man-eating brute" behind the same bars as KyoNaZa. Back, you monster! Back. *cracks whip* I Thot You Was a Toad

    kyaa! s-stop with the whip (● ̄(エ) ̄●)

  • MOI?
    June 28, 2017 9:39 pm
    Ah, Polito , here is some snax and a drink ... (please leave clothes on, it is chilly today) tokidoki

    *stops taking clothes off* whaaaa?! how boring! fiiiiine *takes snacks and rum* this will... do (▰˘◡˘▰) *munches*

  • tokidoki
    June 28, 2017 9:41 pm
    Weird. Okay ... nope, there it is again. Above Eldritchangel's comment. I Thot You Was a Toad

    Now I see it ...

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    June 28, 2017 9:43 pm
    kyaa! s-stop with the whip (● ̄(エ) ̄●) MOI?

    That's not the safe word!

  • tokidoki
    June 28, 2017 9:44 pm
    *stops taking clothes off* whaaaa?! how boring! fiiiiine *takes snacks and rum* this will... do (▰˘◡˘▰) *munches* MOI?

    Ah, maybe it's not so chilly where you are, but yesterday it was 30C here, today it's 14C ... if you want to run around nekkid in the cold rainy and windy weather, I gots my camera

  • moan
    June 28, 2017 9:55 pm

    How did the existence of trolls take over the internet? And why are they using it as if it's a toy to manipulate?

  • dragonlady June 28, 2017 10:25 pm
    How did the existence of trolls take over the internet? And why are they using it as if it's a toy to manipulate? moan

    Because some people are under the impression that you can get away with it. Also anonimity gives them a freedom without exposing their real identity. Trolls are generally insecure and socially awkward individuals in real life and trolling on internet gives them some sort of satisfaction, since they can't express their opinions so freely in real life.

  • takame
    June 28, 2017 10:28 pm
    There was a down-vote feature. It didn't delete, but it covered the comment. That got rigged. I know there are reasons why people want to stay anon. Good reasons. Reasons they don't need to justify to anyone. E... I Thot You Was a Toad

    EXACTLY. I had the same sentiment.

    yeah. i remember that anon thread ranting about those and i hate being angry but i just exploded that time after weeks of silently enduring the troll invasion of the main boards.

    in my honest opinion it's not really THAT hard to create an account. the choice is really theirs and they do not have to give information on their page if they wanted to. heck, i see a lot of watchers/followers who only sign in for the manga and list subscription. as long as they jump out of that anon pool and give themselves an identity. a named anon but at least that makes them an individual.

    ...anyway: users who uses bots? that made me curious.

  • MOI?
    June 28, 2017 10:34 pm
    That's not the safe word! I Thot You Was a Toad

    You never told me iiit! N-no (yes)... yes (harder) (● ̄(エ) ̄●)

  • MOI?
    June 28, 2017 10:35 pm
    Ah, maybe it's not so chilly where you are, but yesterday it was 30C here, today it's 14C ... if you want to run around nekkid in the cold rainy and windy weather, I gots my camera tokidoki

    ...you have those temps at this time of year? Tsk *bites nails* (⊙_'⊙ ) *jealous*

  • tokidoki
    June 28, 2017 11:07 pm
    ...you have those temps at this time of year? Tsk *bites nails* (⊙_'⊙ ) *jealous* MOI?

    Wacky weather in Canada - coldest day was -81C to 45C (that's -114F to 113F) I have only ever experienced -40C to 36C though. Got frostbite a few times, not nice.

  • L a c r i m o s a
    June 29, 2017 12:57 am

    so true how anon usually means the person has something to hide lol. i hardly ever comment on anything these days since there's always gotta be someone getting all mad about how "triggering" everything is. if the uke even dares to utter a "n-nooo...~" you can be sure the PC police are there to tag it as a rape manga and start an argument in the comments lol

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    June 29, 2017 1:41 am
    Because some people are under the impression that you can get away with it. Also anonimity gives them a freedom without exposing their real identity. Trolls are generally insecure and socially awkward individua... dragonlady

    Yeah, mostly. Mostly a few brats, a couple of frat house-style idiots. I've been warned about some who are more sinister. Actually, we all have. VPNs or Tor are highly recommended unless you share a computer network with thousands.

    I've seen one who showed definite signs of a borderline personality disorder with psychotic moments, possibly schizophrenia. Narcissism. And I've noticed a couple of people who show signs of PTSDs, whose sense of self has been wiped out by violence and tragedy, but for the most part, these ones leave people alone unless they feel threatened. One of these people freely admitted to her PTSDs in one of those sharing threads ... which made me worry about her safety. I got that she's a strong person, but that's a helluva lot of information to put out into the ether about your mental stablity. Again, people really need to watch what they share.

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    June 29, 2017 2:28 am
    EXACTLY. I had the same sentiment. yeah. i remember that anon thread ranting about those and i hate being angry but i just exploded that time after weeks of silently enduring the troll invasion of the main boar... takame

    Give a person enough rope ... it's weird how it happens, but sock puppets usually out themselves, whether they have an account or not. That's just another reason why, if you have something to say, put a name and face to it. Because there's no reason not to.

    It's true that a person who is signed in can just as easily manipulate sock puppet troll accounts and anon troll comments as any anon, but there are that many more steps involved and it serves as a sober second thought. Identity is more than an account.

    Botssssssss..... obviously, the spam-bots that show up from time to time. And now we have them to thank for Captcha.

    One person floated the idea past me of bots rigging the up-votes, especially for people who achieve greater numbers of approval ratings on their manga reviews than actual people who appear to have read the manga (or rated it, at least.) That may be a bit of a stretch, but it sure involves a lot of sock puppets. I think it's kind of hilarious. Can you imagine having to sign out and in that many times?

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    June 29, 2017 2:50 am
    so true how anon usually means the person has something to hide lol. i hardly ever comment on anything these days since there's always gotta be someone getting all mad about how "triggering" everything is. if t... L a c r i m o s a

    Well, *ahem* *blushes*, I do get triggered a lot, and I'm not shy about letting it out. I react, emotionally ... but, also, rationally. That's another reason why there is no point to trying to pretend to be an anon. Whatever for? Who wants everybody to agree with them all the time? So what if some people are offended? People can't even agree on what kind of manga is fluffy. (Apparently. I mean, some folks think Finder is cute. Wut?) So set your thoughts apart from the bottom-feeders and cultivate an identity. Unless you actually ARE a bottom-feeder, in which case, thank you for making that so clear by staying anon.

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    June 29, 2017 2:51 am
    You never told me iiit! N-no (yes)... yes (harder) (● ̄(エ) ̄●) MOI?

    *shifty eyes*

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    June 29, 2017 4:27 am
    so true how anon usually means the person has something to hide lol. i hardly ever comment on anything these days since there's always gotta be someone getting all mad about how "triggering" everything is. if t... L a c r i m o s a

    Oop, the last part of that comment was directed to universal you, not personal you.

  • KyoZaNa✿
    June 29, 2017 6:19 am

    Refer to the obscene spam mails incidents from various accounts & lot of downvotes on the topic telling how to delete trolling / threatening / insulting topics..
    Those various kinds of troll have already created many a/c.

  • KyoZaNa✿
    June 29, 2017 6:24 am

    And it's worse that they create a/c just to troll.

  • dragonlady June 29, 2017 8:04 am
    Yeah, mostly. Mostly a few brats, a couple of frat house-style idiots. I've been warned about some who are more sinister. Actually, we all have. VPNs or Tor are highly recommended unless you share a computer ne... I Thot You Was a Toad

    I couldn't agree more. Ever since the introduction of social media to our lives, everyone became so willing to share sensitive information online. Sometimes I see others share very private things in here, it's not really safe to share them in here.

    I also agree with you about VPN but one must be careful about which VPN service they choose. Some of them are willing to share personal info with 3rd parties and some others have serious security loopholes.

  • MOI?
    June 29, 2017 1:45 pm
    Wacky weather in Canada - coldest day was -81C to 45C (that's -114F to 113F) I have only ever experienced -40C to 36C though. Got frostbite a few times, not nice. tokidoki

    (⊙_⊙ ) *trembles* i take it back... and *takes clothes off* (● ̄(エ) ̄●)╭ (i know you wanted me to )

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    June 29, 2017 3:50 pm
    I couldn't agree more. Ever since the introduction of social media to our lives, everyone became so willing to share sensitive information online. Sometimes I see others share very private things in here, it's ... dragonlady

    And some are simply fronts for different security agencies, which may or may not be a good thing depending on in whose security they are invested.

    I'm of two minds about what people should share, especially related to mental health. On the one hand, that sort of information can lead to missed job opportunities, being turned down for educational grants and bursaries, being declined for things which require responsible behaviour like volunteerism or working with children. It can set up misconceptions about capabilities in people's minds that can impede relationships, lead to problems securing loans, establishing credit or renting apartments and other problems. And it can stay on the web for a very long time.

    Yet if people aren't frank about who they are, what they've experienced, how they've grown and changed, what they've learned, how can we learn from them? How do we learn to see past the wound to the person, with all their good intentions, hopes and contributions?

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    June 29, 2017 3:53 pm
    Refer to the obscene spam mails incidents from various accounts & lot of downvotes on the topic telling how to delete trolling / threatening / insulting topics.. Those various kinds of troll have already cr... KyoZaNa✿

    ヾ(☆▽☆) How are you doing?

  • tokidoki
    June 29, 2017 4:56 pm
    (⊙_⊙ ) *trembles* i take it back... and *takes clothes off* (● ̄(エ) ̄●)╭ (i know you wanted me to ) MOI?

    ***

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    June 29, 2017 5:09 pm
    *** tokidoki

    Oh great. Lots of pics of plucked chicken.

  • tokidoki
    June 29, 2017 5:52 pm
    Oh great. Lots of pics of plucked chicken. I Thot You Was a Toad

    Well, chicken flesh anyway O.O, although it is warmer today, not so many goosebumps. Want me to send you the photos? (Here is a sexy reclining pose ... ) http://www.mangago.me/home/photo/1704525/

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    June 29, 2017 6:05 pm
    Well, chicken flesh anyway O.O, although it is warmer today, not so many goosebumps. Want me to send you the photos? (Here is a sexy reclining pose ... ) http://www.mangago.me/home/photo/1704525/ tokidoki

    Ah, the ancient art of chi-bari.

  • tokidoki
    June 29, 2017 6:22 pm
    Ah, the ancient art of chi-bari. I Thot You Was a Toad

    Yes! Who knew Moi? had such endowments? The bras and sweatshirts usually hide it well, don't you think?

  • MOI?
    June 30, 2017 4:34 am
    Yes! Who knew Moi? had such endowments? The bras and sweatshirts usually hide it well, don't you think? tokidoki

    Kyaaaa ♡!!! Y9u pervs! *covers bosom* (● ̄(エ) ̄●) ...don't stop taking pics ♡

  • I Thot You Was a Toad
    June 30, 2017 5:45 am
    Kyaaaa ♡!!! Y9u pervs! *covers bosom* (● ̄(エ) ̄●) ...don't stop taking pics ♡ MOI?

    That reminds me, Chapter 3 of Chicken Stalker is up.

  • tokidoki
    June 30, 2017 6:31 am
    That reminds me, Chapter 3 of Chicken Stalker is up. I Thot You Was a Toad

    Choke it ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E9BQAAT10Mw

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  1. KenGoldenTree June 4, 2017 4:02 pm

    hey man ^^ i love reading your comments - like a lot of us do on this board. i enjoy how you craft your comments with such clarity, humour, and experience...clenches fist. if you dont mind. how old are you? what do you study?:0

    • I Thot You Was a Toad
      June 4, 2017 10:26 pm

      Hi Hannah,
      Thank you for your very charming comment. ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ノ~ I'm glad if my comments please people. I don't always have much clarity, humour or ... well, I do have a fair bit of experience since I'm probably one of the older women on these boards. I'm no longer in a formal capacity as a student, but life never stops giving us opportunities to learn, right?

      What's your favourite sort of manga right now?
      ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶

  2. 2d2la March 25, 2017 8:35 am

    Hey Hun,

    I used to see your comments all over the place, now I don't see them at all. Hope everything's fine.

    All the best (⌒▽⌒)

    • I Thot You Was a Toad
      March 25, 2017 4:45 pm

      Hello! What a lovely comment. Last winter, I switched from having ample time to read and enjoy manga, to having almost no spare time at all. Responsibility ... the bane of guilty pleasures.

      On the subject of comments, I also think I had flared into "comments too much" mode. I get too passionate about things, which makes for silly overstatements. I really needed to lighten up. I was starting to verbally punch people I liked and respected, just out of a hotheaded need to defend my point of view. But I'm glad I was noticed ... Thanks!

    • 2d2la March 27, 2017 10:25 am
      Hello! What a lovely comment. Last winter, I switched from having ample time to read and enjoy manga, to having almost no spare time at all. Responsibility ... the bane of guilty pleasures. On the subject of co... I Thot You Was a Toad

      Ahh, I understand. I'm at that point too. I was sick for a pretty long time but now that I've recovered, I'm starting to get back into work. Only problem is I'm not all that good with self-discipline any more. What is worse is that I'm self-employed so if I can't manage myself I'm screwed. It's gotten to the point that I've asked someone to step in and take my laptop/PS4/PSP/Phone away from me to ensure I make my deadlines. Looks like it may come to that too since I'm already back on Manga Go.....But you've served as a gentle reminder (and a tug on my guilty conscience) so after I write this I'm going to stay away and be responsible, fingers crossed. Habits, they can be quite scary and crippling.

      As for the comments, I haven't seen any of the type that you were talking about. I actually enjoyed the ones I read which is why I missed them when they were gone. Good on you for noticing you were going a bit overboard though. Most people don't or if they do, they won't face/own it since they're afraid of admitting that they're in the wrong. In regards to your passion, I wish I could take a little bit of it. I'm way too apathetic about things.

      Glad to know that you're healthy and doing well.

      All the best to you and much love your way.

  3. Nazunacchi July 8, 2016 8:03 am

    I keep seeing you float around in the comments and thought I would drop by to say hi. ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ノ~

  4. roloismymotto April 3, 2016 1:58 pm

    Hi! Thanks for following me! I saw you around the topic boards for many yaoi/shonen ai mangas and I always enjoyed reading your comments and your reviews., I appreciate your following me very much. I hope we can be friends.

    • I Thot You Was a Toad
      April 8, 2016 4:32 am

      Thanks! What a lovely note. I'm afraid I'm lucky to drop in once a week these days. Just too much going on. No time left for yaoi ... at least for now. But I appreciate the kind words.

  5. sHic July 18, 2015 2:01 pm

    ahh you follow me , I'm so happy ...
    I'm kinda down today , can u give me manga tht can make my soul back to life
    (-.-)

    • I Thot You Was a Toad
      July 18, 2015 4:56 pm

      Other than those on my various lists which appeal to you (if you read the write-ups, you might get an idea about what they are about), not really, because I haven't had a chance to read any lately. I'm away on holidays and moments on the computer are few and far between. For soulful, redeeming stories, I tend to sway toward Machiya Hatoko, Kawai Touko, Tenzen Momoko, or if the prettiness of the drawings matters, Asou Kai.

    • sHic July 18, 2015 5:46 pm
      Other than those on my various lists which appeal to you (if you read the write-ups, you might get an idea about what they are about), not really, because I haven't had a chance to read any lately. I'm away on ... I Thot You Was a Toad

      thank you and allow me to apologize for disturbing u while u are on a holiday .
      _have fun.

    • I Thot You Was a Toad
      July 19, 2015 4:43 pm
      thank you and allow me to apologize for disturbing u while u are on a holiday ._have fun. sHic

      No problem. Hope you feel more cheerful soon!

  6. ᴿᴼᴸᴼ
    March 29, 2015 4:22 pm

    thanks for following me too!(⌒▽⌒)
    your lists are interesting and the reviews you make somehow persuades me to read the ones that didn't appeal to me in the past (๑•ㅂ•)و✧

    • I Thot You Was a Toad
      March 30, 2015 4:16 am

      Mostly I just leave the reviews so I remember what I've read in the past, but if you come across something you like that you gave a pass to before, then bonus!

  7. mrl98
    March 20, 2015 12:28 am

    Hey I wanna thank you for your awesome list the favorite one, please keep updating it :)

    • I Thot You Was a Toad
      March 20, 2015 12:18 pm

      Thanks, I will and I'm very glad you like the list. Work has me all tied up for now, but whenever I can, I read more yaoi. Life is good.

  8. MichelleLL
    October 2, 2014 11:37 am

    Yes it is a nice story! Hope you like it! ^_^_^

    • I Thot You Was a Toad
      October 2, 2014 1:50 pm

      What was it about the story that you liked?

    • I Thot You Was a Toad
      October 2, 2014 2:04 pm

      (I'm not being ironic. I'm sincerely curious.)

    • MichelleLL
      October 3, 2014 10:48 pm

      the part that the uke loves him even without knowing his past :D you know like he loves him for who he was not because of what he has. AND I also love the author because he does BDSM ahihihi *blush*

  9. MichelleLL
    September 30, 2014 1:14 am

    Hey! The yaoi that I've been looking for is finally found by badmoonligh89! Here it is chapter 5! http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/motto_midara_ni_shitsukemashou/
    ~MichelleLL ^_^_^_^

    • I Thot You Was a Toad
      September 30, 2014 2:54 am

      Thanks, Michelle. I'm off to read because it sounds like a wonderful story.

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