um, everyone has their own kinks and thats cool, but people need to stop saying this is 'proper' bdsm or that it shows proper consent and that sort of thing...
if dubcon is your thing, thats fine, its fiction, but dont make it out that this is done right, because its not... a drunk person is not able to give consent, especially if they're drunk to the point of blacking out, and thats for plain old consent. you need everything laid out for all parties beforehand in bdsm or you dont have consent, and the poor guy did not know what the other guy meant by rough. no safe words, and not listening to the partner when he clearly says no to something just adds to it. if i'm in a scene with someone, and he pulls something i'm not cool with and make it clear i'm pulling out of it, he damn well better or i'm calling the cops on him. again, if forceful stuff is your thing, have at in your reading material, but dont mislabel and mislead. call a spade a spade. this qualifies as assault. period.
um, everyone has their own kinks and thats cool, but people need to stop saying this is 'proper' bdsm or that it shows proper consent and that sort of thing...
if dubcon is your thing, thats fine, its fiction, but dont make it out that this is done right, because its not... a drunk person is not able to give consent, especially if they're drunk to the point of blacking out, and thats for plain old consent. you need everything laid out for all parties beforehand in bdsm or you dont have consent, and the poor guy did not know what the other guy meant by rough. no safe words, and not listening to the partner when he clearly says no to something just adds to it. if i'm in a scene with someone, and he pulls something i'm not cool with and make it clear i'm pulling out of it, he damn well better or i'm calling the cops on him. again, if forceful stuff is your thing, have at in your reading material, but dont mislabel and mislead. call a spade a spade. this qualifies as assault. period.