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Has being a fujo/fudan ever taken a toll on your RL relationships?
So this is outta sheer curiosity. I'm a 25 yr-old closeted fujo. Hetero in preference but pretty much asexual in practice. Live in a country where LGBTis frowned upon. At the age where peer and family pressures to go dating and marriage is frustratingly high but I've nvr even dated anyone seriously before. Now when I'm already addicted to BL, always have this worry that any man will be scared off if they knew this hobby of mine. I've also read ppl's experiences when they have to stop reading BL since their partners disagree. I dont think I can do that so I always avoid dating at all cost, but consequently ppl start questioning and even judging me the wrong way. On top of that, it's also hard making friends in RL since BL is the only thing im interested in lmao. What about you guys? Do you have similar experience? How d'you handle it?
HHHhhhmmm this is very interesting question I started dating my boyfriend around the same time I stumbled upon Yaoi ...∑(O_O；)....Σ(•’╻’• ۶)۶ ....I went off on a rant the first time I saw a scene where the seme "forced" the uke....(ノಠ益ಠ)ノ彡┻━┻... I knew nothing about shoujo or "saving face". I ranted for about an h...... 1 reply
just reading a few of these responses, i just wanna say do not openly "ship" real life
people-
if you see two guys out on the street talking to one another, don't instantly kick in
"OH BOY- THEY MUST BE GAY BEHIND CLOSED DOORS"
-and if you do, keep it to yourself, its very offensive and rude.
(anything that happens in fiction/fantasy should S...... 1 reply
Dude same situation, except I am not interested in dating at all lol. And I, too probably would never ever give up yaoi just because someone doesn't like it, that just makes no sense. Plus if there's really a guy (or girl) that would be scared off because you love something, there's no way you'd be able to spend your life with that guy. (╬￣皿...... 2 reply
I'm a hardcore Fujoshi with no interest in boy-girl or girl-girl relationships, which is the biggest cockblock my love life can have. I'm a strict voyeur...not one of those hetero fujoshis who dreams of being the meat in a Devil's Threesome. Rather than truly adore the love between two men, they just seem to secretly want one or both of the men for...... 1 reply
Sorry in advance for the SUUUPER long reply, but your question grabbed me and slapped me upside the head, so to speak. I can relate.
I became a fujoshi after getting married and before realizing there was even a word for it, lol. I discovered the joy of writing slash fanfics for fantasy. I already loved anime at the time, but hadn't gotten into ya...... reply
Well Im not interested in dating at this moment, but i understand how you feel. Im 17 so my family isnt pressuring about marriage or something, but one thing i wanted to say is that you shouldnt worry to much, you are still young and you will find your suitable partner who will accept you and your hobbies. Im in BL too, at first i was embarrassed a...... 1 reply
All my best friends (all femiles) are fujoshi and we all go crazy if we see a guy in our class be too close to some other guy. We even created a name for the ship and now most of the class ship :3 . I did read my first doujinshi yaoi with my ex-boyfriend and we were both equaly shocked. He was ok with it. My entire family knows too about this and s...... reply
hmm I only have my current BF as an example, but he is totally fine with it I guess. After we got together he saw my Yaoi manga collection so I asked his opinion. He gave me the best answer XD "why should I be against it? I dont have to read it. Its your taste and its ok". Indeed, he is very liberal. Sometimes I make jokes about shipping movie/ man...... reply
Yes
There was this guy that I was getting involved with, we weren't dating but we had feelings for each other and we both knew that sooner or later we'd be official...until I told him about yaoi. He isn't a homophobe but it made him VERY uncomfortable and he kept saying things like "that gay shit" and "why are you so fucked up" very rudely. I figur...... 1 reply
Other than keeping a secret from my partner not really, if he found out I was fujoshi I think I'd die, I know he wouldn't judge but he'd probably be weirded out 2 reply
