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Hey everyone, I am looking for some advice if anyone is kind enough to share their thought...

Help please? April 28, 2017 5:33 pm

Hey everyone, I am looking for some advice if anyone is kind enough to share their thoughts. So, I have the summer off because the semester just ended. During the semester, I did unpaid work and stressed out over difficult subjects that I didn't enjoy, to the point where the anxiety from everything landed me in the hospital last month. I have mental and physical health concerns, but my doctors told me I should focus on my mental health first to see if that improves my physical health. Now, I have time off, but my parents worry that if I stay alone and isolated all day, I will just overthink and get worse. I leave the house for a 5 km walk every day, but besides that, I mostly just stay indoors reading manga. I don't have local friends. Going on a trip somewhere is not an option right now. I don't think being inside on the computer all day long is the solution to getting my life together, even though that's my comfort zone. But I'm running out of ideas about what I can do without overwhelming myself and getting sicker. Has anyone else been in a similar situation before and if so, how did you deal with it? Thank you.

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    Anonymous April 28, 2017 5:37 pm

    I'm no expert, but if you would like my humble opinion, here it is. Try taking up a new hobby. Do things that engage you; sewing, cooking, read a book (not online), try coloring/drawing/painting, maybe writing poetry or a story. Try exercising. Do things that you can do comfortably but still make your brain work. I sincerely hope you get better. Love from a stranger <3

    J April 28, 2017 5:46 pm

    Join a club or go volunteer. Go volunteer for animal club. It's quite fun.

    Anonymous April 28, 2017 6:23 pm

    Taking care of your family like doing chores and if you are a girl learning about cooking from your mom or learn how to make sweaters or learn how to drive a car or bicycle and you can do a lot just sitting ideal

    Eldalote April 28, 2017 6:32 pm

    Okay I dont know where you live or your age, neither am I in your situation, but ill try to explain what Im doing right now that I think might be suitable for you: Where I live you can work in someone elses place at jobs like elderly care or at a kindergarten. (When i google the word for it 'locum tenens' pops up, no idea if its right) As long as youre 18 you dont really need any kind of education. Ive been working as a substitute teacher for school and kindergarten since november. They just call me when someone is sick or something and I work instead of them. Maybe that would be something for you (in case you have that in your country)? You can work just the amount that feels right for you and you get some money for it. You can also easily say 'no thank you' if you start feeling stressed out.
    If this isnt possible, maybe do some volunteer work? Or joins some kind of weekly activity?

    Miyazono_Kaori April 28, 2017 6:36 pm

    I have some problems related to my legs. And at a point it got so bad that i had to use a cane to be able to walk and I couldn't go to school or any other place because of being like that either. It was a really hard time for me. I kept getting more and more depressed. I had a hard time coming to terms with the fact that I am different and I will never be able to be like other kids and do what they do. Even when I got better, I didn't want to socialize with kids my age. I spent most of my time doing stuff like creating things with loom bands, knitting, sowing, reading, collecting different types of quotes and painting. I wrote many of those quotes on different coloured papers and hung them in my room. Getting up every morning and seeing those quotes helped me a lot. And it felt good to see something that I did for myself there. I was adviced by the doctor to swim and go on walks everyday. I joined a club for the swimming and I got myself a walking partner. I think that those helped me the most.
    I know that I am just a random stranger to you on the internet . But i think that it is okay if you are not feeling good right now but someday you will. Different people have different ways of dealing with things. If you feel pressured then take it easy. If you stress about getting better you will do the exact opposite of getting better. For me talking to people and keeping myself busy helped a lot. And it took a lot of time. I hope that this helps.

    Anonymous April 28, 2017 7:24 pm

    Maybe a part time job or a new hobby, knitting is easy and fun, you can kinda just zone out and your hands just move on their own. Or just add another walk to your day, maybe one in the morning and one in the evening.

    hanahime April 28, 2017 9:10 pm

    Try sports!
    You'll get to exercise instead of just walking
    And u get to socialize

    squaresquids April 28, 2017 9:49 pm

    Check to see if you have a local animal shelter that is in need of volunteers. They often do, and "cat/dog socializer" is a great way to kill time in a enjoyable way. The library is also a great place to hit up; even if you still just sit there and read you've at least gotten out of the house. One of my own personal pleasures is calligraphy, although I am horrible at it. Old-fashioned ink pens are pretty cheap (art stores), and a lot of fun to have. If you're worried about just sitting around in a chair all day, try looking at a organizational app (I like Habitica, it's an rpg-like checklist, which I know sounds weird but it's great and oddly motivating) and coming up with a list of things you want to do everyday.

    From my own experience (anxiety and depression for the win!) the biggest things for maintaining mental health when you don't have much to do are little things like actually getting dressed in the morning regardless of whether you leave the house or not, trying to actually cook (or at least assemble) at least one meal a day instead of having something pre-made, and to get on some sort of a consistent sleep schedule. Regularly interacting with others socially is also way more important than people want it to be; after you spend too much time alone it can be very damaging to you psyche. Holding conversation online can somewhat work, but it's better in person.