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Well first, you're already a grown woman, and should be able to make decisions on your own.
But confronting family, especially a strict one, is difficult.
Main thing is, you just need to sit down with your family and have a civilized conversation with them. Express to them your dreams and passion.
I say this a lot, but if they get mad and start yelling because they're opposed to it, wait for them to finish what they have to say and give them a second to calm down, then you proceed to talk. Doing this will show that you're trying to have a conversation with them, not an argument, and that you are serious about it. Nothing good ever comes from conflict.

Make a plan on what you want to do and how you want to achieve it, and let your family know that that is your plan, and ask them if there's anything that they would like to add to it, so they know you're not doing this just for your selfish desires (not saying it is, but they might think that) and that you're willing to compromise.

If you have siblings, try discussing it with them first, one by one. Usually siblings are easier to talk to than parents, and if they understand your feelings, ask them if they can be with you to explain it to your parents. This should help relieve some stress.

If you need to, try writing down what you would want to say to them, and give them a letter letting them know you want to speak with them about this, and explain that it's hard for you to speak with them directly.

The best way to be ready and less nervous, is to prepare sound arguments about WHY you want to go so much. Also show them that you have made extensive research on the matter before you talk to them. After all, they may ask you lots of questions, and if you are not prepared for THOSE, how can you be prepared for going away alone?

So some tips:

- If this is really important to you, try to project that to them. You say that this is your dream, show that to them! What parents want to for their kids to be happy. But you have to explain WHY this is your dream, why it means so much. Is it that you hope to learn something? What? How is this going to help you in life?

- If its your first time going somewhere alone, avoid doing backpacking or normal travelling in dangerous locations, because, understandably, your family will be too worried to let you go. Start of slow, you have all your life to travel, so you dont have to go all out this first time.

- Like I said, show them the plan you have, what you want a visit, where you would stay, etc. This will impress them and show them that you are very committed to your idea, but also that you are responsible and organized.

- Show them that you understand the risks of travelling alone, and what you plan to do to prevent dangerous situations. Ex: promise to call them every night, or to go to a town where there is a relative you can go to for emergencies, or tell them that you are willing to change your itenerary based on some of their thoughts, etc. Show them that you are planning on keeping same and won't go crazy.

Now, you say that you are too shy/nervous to tell your family that you want to travel alone... I don't mean to sound like an oldie but if you cant do this, maybe you should wait a bit before you go off on your own? I don't mean this in a rude way, you are 23 after all, but it's a dog eat dog world and you need to be confident, strong and assertive, because people sense these things and if you are "weak" you are more at risk in terms of burglary or worse. Once you have this mindset, you will be ready to face the world :)

You could also find a friend or two that you trust and try a trip like this before you go off on your own?

Think about it. Good luck!

Mind if you tell me where do you travel because I think that that also plays a huge role

I traveled in England alone with my friend and my family was so concerned because we didn't travel with any agency and London is huge city and I was never before in a million city but I know english enough to ask for help if I'm lost and London is safe city.If you travel somewhere where you where people can understand you it is mich easier.For example of I went to Italy or France alone it would be much harder for me veacuse a lot of poeple don't speak english. I think that during the day every city is safe enough

Thanks for your advies those are rational and logic
actually my father agrees with my travel (my parents are divorced) the worst are my brothers

that's why i decided to do travel a bit later than my firt plan to be sure to have all the argument and everything planned.

But i want to travel bc i am shy and nervous, i know that if i stay it won't change (i already lived by myself too ) so that's not a problem.
I know the are worried about me, i like and it's true to shoow them that i am commited to my idea.

I want to do it this bc i have time i am taking a gap year but next i will have to go back to college and need money so this year is perfect.

i tried to find friends but everyoone are doing something so bad timing.

thank you very much

That's good that he agrees at least.
But yeah, they could be strict because it's their way of looking out for you and just want to make sure you're safe and make the right decisions.
But nobody knows you better than yourself.

i know that i can handle myself, but for them a girl is someone who should get married then have kids and if she is not like that then she is a slut.

so yeah the only way like you said is to show the that i am responsible and sure of myself (the difficult part)

i chose germany because it's near, they speak well english, and i watched a movie and berlin sounds cool so i want to go there haha
In europe is kind of easier to traavel, there is internet, ppl speak english and bplane ticket are cheap which is cool.

How was london, i am really interested to go there too if i can

Sorry when i read what i wrote i wasn't explicit enough, i am travelling to germany so it's in europe, it's kind of safe, they speak english, and my phone works there, if possible i would like then to go to belgium, hollande and england (if i can ).

Another thing i want this trip to be crazy actually, i know what you mean by going crazy, and you are right i have to show them that.

But during this trip i will do things which are for them crazy (they are kind of religious), but this is how i want to live too but i am too scared to tell them.

this trip, i always wanted to do it and an even bigger like around the world(i only will go to germany) but i agree with you, i know for thaat i am not ready but europe yes i am

that's right, they want me to have a good life, the only problem is that we don't have the same vision of a good life.

Oh I love Germany(actually I'm born there) I truly believe that you won't have any problems .I recommened you to write all things you want to do there and make schedule so you will be much organized. London is great.It's a little bit expensive from my standards but city is cery nice and culture.People are so kind and always willing to help.Duri g pur trip my friend and I lost near our hostel and we asked women does she know the way and she even paid us taxi although it wasn't necessary.

During our* sorry for mistakes,I'm sleepy now

Don't worrry it's late (i don't kow what time is it where you live), wow that's cool, she is really nice.

Really?! which city? I met osme german and they were really nice, giving me idea of places visit, so i started a little.

You are right i should do that, but i will leave some space for the unexpected, we never know and that's the kkind of trip i love.

Of course you must leave time for unexpected because sudden things always happen during trips ;) I don't think that you know this town because it's not that big city-Mannheim

non i don't, and are you still living in germany (i don't recognise your flag haha)?

No,I moved to Croatia.