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Ayu-chan September 27, 2015 10:11 pm

Okay... The topic is that a dude in my class this year asked me to going out with him. Even if my best friend keep trying flirting with me, this guy is the first one that actually asked me that.
Problem : I'm not in love with him. He's a friend for me, so I'm lost.
Even more because my older sister told me to try going out with him even if, as I said, I don't love him...
Isn't it stupid ? I mean, being with someone you don't love for your first time... Isn't it a waste ?
It's not even the first time of the other one.
My sister said that if I don't try one day, I'll end up alone all my life. (/TДT)/
By the way, I'm 13 and I know the guy since... 4 weeks ? Isn't that short to really love someone ?

I'M A BIG POOP WHEN IT COME TO LOVE ! (╯°Д °)╯╧╧
I've no experience and am way too nervous...
Is it really possible, reciproque love ? Like in manga ?
Or am I being stupid again ? ( ̄∇ ̄")
Help this poor lost little kohei that I am, pleeease !

Responses
    fan September 27, 2015 10:18 pm

    love is hard to get but like is easy to get, many people confuse love to like .
    there is s.one that is not my type but after I knew him better I really liked him, maybe even loved him, his personality was awesome.
    as for your problem you can suggest to start over as friends first so you can know him better

    Myumyu September 27, 2015 10:23 pm

    Hello..juste pour mon expérience personnelle... Après juste 4 semaines que tu le connais...c'est normale que il y a pas d'amour...tu ne le connais pas bien...un conseil..dis lui honnêtement que pour le moment tu n'as pas des vrais sentiments pour lui...mais que tu veut sortir avec lui et essayer de le connaître mieux.,..après...tu verra bien ce que ça donne...non? Kiss kiss

    Ayu-chan September 27, 2015 10:53 pm
    love is hard to get but like is easy to get, many people confuse love to like .there is s.one that is not my type but after I knew him better I really liked him, maybe even loved him, his personality was awesom... fan

    We're already friend, he's very funny.

    Ayu-chan September 27, 2015 10:55 pm
    Hello..juste pour mon expérience personnelle... Après juste 4 semaines que tu le connais...c'est normale que il y a pas d'amour...tu ne le connais pas bien...un conseil..dis lui honnêtement que pour le momen... Myumyu

    C'est ce que je me dis, comment lui peut déjà m'aimer ? C'est comme si tout le monde prenait ce genre de chose à la légère et que je me compliquais la vie toute seule... Bouh ;-;
    You're sweet (づ ̄ ³ ̄)づ

    Ayu-chan September 27, 2015 11:01 pm
    This reply will be showed after approved! MOI?

    xD Guess you saw it, a young fujoshi ~

    That's how I'd like it to be ! But everyone around my age already had a bf/gf (even if I don't really care of this) and what my sister wanted to say was that if I never try, I'll never know.
    The "you'll end up alone" was a joke, bruh (づ ̄ ³ ̄)づ

    And YES I'm young ! But -I don't know how old you are- you should know that at our age, most of the 'child' are worth than rabbits ! Already so many realtionships, they can't even remember all anymore !
    It's creepy, right ?

    Ayu-chan September 27, 2015 11:03 pm

    Btw, in my class I'm not with my friends and my sister also told me that w/ a boyfriend you can do more friend...... .-.

    I forgot to tell that my sister is the depressed and twisted type of girl...



    Ugh. Σ(  ̄□ ̄||)

    Rosebud September 27, 2015 11:06 pm

    You're just 13, you have a long life to search for someone who truly loves you (reciprocate love). It depends on what you're looking for, there's peolplewho jus want to have fun at that age so they don't need to "love " their partner but if you're looking for something serious (even at 13) just wait and you'll find sooner or later someone that suits you. I really recommend you to not be anxious about having your first boyfriend and remember you have the power to choose, don't be a conformist.
    I hope my advice will be useful (●'◡'●)ノ

    Rosebud September 27, 2015 11:07 pm

    You're just 13, you have a long life to search for someone who truly loves you (reciprocal love). It depends on what you're looking for, there's peolple who jus want to have fun at that age so they don't need to "love " their partner but if you're looking for something serious (even at 13) just wait and sooner or later you'll find someone that suits you. I really recommend you to not be anxious about having your first boyfriend and remember you have the power to choose, don't be a conformist.
    I hope my advice will be useful (●'◡'●)ノ

    HANANE September 27, 2015 11:08 pm

    i think u should tell him that yu see him as a friend but you dont know if you would love him or not , and if he is ok with that , just start going out with him , if after 1 week ur feelings didnt change , break out with him . if his not ok with that reject him from the beginning .

    Anonymous September 27, 2015 11:08 pm

    I agree with Moi? You're young you have a ton of time before you have to worry about being alone. My advice would just be to stay friends if you don't like him that way. Both of you should give it time. It's always better to have known someone for a longer time and then get together if both of you want to because then the relationship will be much deeper. But even if you don't get together after a long time of knowing each other you'll still be friends. Also, and this is something that's really important, don't feel like you owe him or anyone a relationship or anything if you still feel like you don't like him that way. Too many guys think that just because they were your good friend friend for a long time and "put up with you" that you owe them a relationship or something. Just enjoy being friends and see where it goes. Hope this helps. :-)

    I Thot You Was a Toad September 27, 2015 11:46 pm

    Your sister had better be joking, because to older people, the Boyfriend/Girlfriend dynamics at 13 are a bit like those 4-year-olds you sometimes see posing like Lady Gaga or Rhianna. The adult subtext sucks away all the cute, and leaves behind something unpleasantly sticky and sweaty.

    Stay friends. And if he won't let you stay friends, stay distant. Because the last thing you (or anyone) needs is someone whining at you to have sex with him, which would probably be illegal for either of you in any case.

    Yukiko September 28, 2015 12:59 am

    Ignore your sister's statement. You are still 13, and it really depends on yourself if you want to love that person or not. If you don't like him then don't, there no harm in rejecting him, just don't do it too harshly to hurt him deeply (you may not know what that would lead to). I am 15 right now, and someone who was one of my good friends confess to me less than 2 years ago, but I rejected him. And I have to tell you I didnt regret it all. I am happy now single, and will be happy single forever. Iam devoting my life to yaoi, and my career. (Yes, a s lonely indeed, but I will have my friends and family.) (=・ω・=) You can say I am asexual or you can say I only see the 2-d world (an fujoshi and otaku) and not the 3-d world......

    BloodLust (BL) September 28, 2015 1:04 am

    wow u must b purty if someone asked you out xD
    okay...
    1. do you have any1 u like?
    2. do you feel like you could like the guy who asked u out?
    i guess you could just hang out with him a little more than usual and see how it goes. stick with being friends fer now





    im 13 and i have no friends ;-; and ive been asked out once but im pretty sure it was a joke cuz it was from my sworn enemy

    lets b friends :D its rare to find a 13 yr old on here

    CrystalAris September 28, 2015 1:06 am

    If you want to stay good friends I think It'd be better to avoid going out, cause my mom went out with a friend and that didn't work out to well, though love isn't a sure thing, it's not going to happen right away, and if you seriously don't think it will happen with this guy don't try it. Oh and if it makes you feel better I'm (sadly) an adult and I have yet to date anyone, ... though once I almost got a boyfriend that was online till he told me on Skype that I should take off my shirt since it was wet and That was a defiant Good -Bye. Yeah don't try to rush love if it doesn't feel right don't bother

    k_brooks13 September 28, 2015 1:25 am

    I'd say at 13 don't get into a relationship just to do it. If you really really liked the guy I'd maybe say for for it..but even then I'm not sure. I'd stay single, keep figuring out who you are as a person...staying single for a while is a good thing...jumping into a relationship before you're fully mature as a person could lose you any independence you have. You don't want to jump from relationship to relationship because you haven't been alone and are afraid you can't. You also don't want to get stuck into a bad relationship because you're afraid to be alone and that you couldn't do it.

    Anonymous September 28, 2015 1:59 am

    Meh. Don't feel pressured to go out with someone you don't love. You are still young and can take your time, no need to rush things, so keep being friends and who knows, maybe feeling will develop later on, or they won't. Honestly I'm older that you and don't have a bf right now, and I'm quite at peace with my life. When you date without loving the person, you are bound to feel burdened, wanting to learn to love and pushing yourself to do things that won't come naturally. To be honest, if you were older I might say give it a shot (at least one date to get the feel of it) because it is true that sometimes falling in love can be gradual, not right up in your face like in movies/mangas/animes. But at thirteen...maybe its just me, but "dating" and "loving" are words too big for that age, and are often used rather carelessly.

    luvjunko September 28, 2015 2:21 am

    Well from I can see, my question is this: if you really didn't like him at all, or didn't want to date him at all, you wouldn't be asking us this here. You are actually considering dating him...If the reason for you thinking that is because:
    - Everyone around you is dating and you want to go out with him for the mere reason of dating someone, then its the wrong reason. It wont make either you or him happy if there is no sincerity
    - You think that he is despite all a nice person and see yourself eventually having a crush on him: then try spending more time with him as closer friends, and see if your feelings grow.

    Myumyu September 28, 2015 7:53 am
    C'est ce que je me dis, comment lui peut déjà m'aimer ? C'est comme si tout le monde prenait ce genre de chose à la légère et que je me compliquais la vie toute seule... Bouh ;-;You're sweet (づ ̄ ³ ̄)... Ayu-chan

    Tu ne te complique pas la vie..tu es juste honnête avec tes sentiments...lui il t'aime? Ah ah désolée..je crois qu'il confonds les sentiments...il éprouve sûrement une bonne affection pour toi..mais aimer..c'est un gros mot...vous ne vous connaissez pas encore...peut-être même que après être sortis deux fois vous verrez que ça colle vraiment pas...c'est pour ça que je te conseille de lui dire depuis le départ que pour le moment tu as de l'affection pour lui et pas autre chose...et tu as 13 ans...et lui? Vous avez le temps de vous découvrir...et toi même..ne te casse pas trop la tête... Les sentiments grandissent avec toi..donc ne stresse pas si tu n'es pas encore tombée amoureuse...ça arrivera quand tu t'attendras le moins...ok? Et dis à ta soeur que l'amour n'est pas une chose que l'on essaye pour voir....on essaye de sortir avec les gens..et si amour il y aura..ben il y aura..sinon...on attends... Bref..je deviens une vieille mégère...mais vraiment profite de la vie piano piano sans te faire trop de soucis.....tu as vraiment le temps de découvrir l'amour...et entre nous...des fois ça sera comme voler sur les nuages...mais des fois...ça te fera pleurer tout ton âme...ça c'est l'amour...bref...bonne chance et prends toujours toi tes décisions...sans agir en pensant aux autres...c'est ta vie...les conseils sont bons...mais restent des mots...à toi de voir...bisouuuuuuu

    Rei-Rei-Chan!!! September 28, 2015 8:16 am

    You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't rush yourself. ;-)

    Ayu-chan September 28, 2015 1:39 pm
    i think u should tell him that yu see him as a friend but you dont know if you would love him or not , and if he is ok with that , just start going out with him , if after 1 week ur feelings didnt change , b... HANANE

    For now this is what seems to be the most possible, thank you (づ ̄ ³ ̄)づ