So the top is literally how I feel all the time, I have lived my life pretty open and never got doing things I didn't want to do just for social points, I've literally pulled out my phone after a "hang out" with a dude to watch something and I try to be as straight forward as possible in all things as it's more efficient in all situations. This character is my spirit animal. Also bottom boy I've had that problem before where you can't finish it's fine dude, just fake it. Works like a charm although I can't really say if this okay in the etiquette of straight sex as I'm a gay dude but most times what the other person wants is to be close, finishing is small potatoes in the scheme of things.
(Warning: this is advice from a gay man who hasn't had or ever wants to have straight sex so etiquette might differ although seems you prefer the d now so it really doesn't matter idk this went way into far left field and just wrote some real personal shit for no reason... fuck it's it stays.) (I'm gonna go take a nap now)
Polarity Frustration