To me, fetishizing gay men is to use them as a sexual fantasy. So, if a straight girl read BL to get off that's problematic. However, it's ok to read BL (I include yaoi) if you're interested in the story, in dynamics in gay relationship. Like everything is in the mindset. If your primary goal to read BL is to get off on sexual scenes between gay me...... 2 reply
that is absolutely not what fetishizing is. it is a completely valid argument. Take a look at half the comments on this site. Yaoi is so very toxic it's unbelievable. If you are a woman and only read yaoi that's disgusting. Assuming you are a woman, judging by how you talk, you have zero right to speak over mlm. You cannot decide what's fetishizin...... 4 reply
