well you shouldn't really be labelling others, unless they tell you. i personally don't have a good experiences with sexualities, and try to stray away from the topic, because of how hard it has been to find my own and actually stick with it, just due to how confusing and hard they are. reply
As far as pushing labels onto other people? Hell no I think that's fucked up but I do think labels to a degree are useful as long as you as your own person label yourself if that makes sense but at a young age our parents label us but as we grow we can then change those labels such as our sexuality, gender, and religion
So as far as labels go I t...... reply
Labels aren’t necessary, but if one has the right to not identify by one set label, one also has the right to identify by a label. Most labels aren’t inherently bad, and give a sort a euphoria to the user to know that they’ve found something that makes them understand themselves more. Labels are there to not completely explain everything abou...... reply
I’m curious what other people’s opinions on sexualities and labels are. Do you think it’s wrong to assume/push sexualities onto others? Do you think sexualities/labels are something we need? What are your experiences and thoughts?
As someone who does not identify as any specific sexuality (my personal belief that love doesn’t need to be labeled), I’ve often had people misinterpret that and assume I just didn’t know what my sexuality was and try to insist on “finding” a sexuality for me. This of course aggravated me greatly...but interestingly enough, I had more issues (homophobia, gatekeeping, invalidation, ect.) ,both within the LGBTQ+ community and outside, when I identified as a certain sexuality as opposed to just being transparent.
I kept it a secret from everyone.
But I showed it to my ex-boyfriend once.
He was like”oh, you read this kind of book?”
And after he read couple of chapters he looks a little awkward.
And then I pretend that I only read yaoi out of curiosity.(we haven’t date each other at that time.) reply
Some of my friends can read shounen ai manga, especially if its with adventure/fantasy plot, but i've shown them the slice of life kind of yaoi/shounen ai, they said its not that they can't read it, but they just not interested with it, one of my friend said it just like reading a romance shoujo manga, which is not his preferable genre. reply
