Have An Unpopular Opinion

can we PLEASE for the love of god stop referring gay people to their sex positions? like the seme/uke/top/bottom/switch labels and for people to just slap those labels onto gay couple irks me so bad..
i've seen some people refer to gay couples as uke/seme/top/bottom because of how they present themselves and it's always "the smaller and more feminine one is uke/bottom! taller and masculine one is top/seme!" and it's just so gross.. like, it may be the case for some gay couples but not all of them fit into that heteronormative stereotype and overall it's pretty disrespectful to us how all you'll ever see of us is nothing but our sex position.
and in a lot of tiktok videos i've seen gay couples being open about their relationship and i rush into the comments and find tons of people going "uwu so cutee the small one must be the uke" or "which one is uke which one is seme" and it's so gross to see.

call me sensitive, call me a killjoy; whatever. but as an mlm, i just feel like we're so fetishized to the point that a lot of you guys don't see anything wrong with strangers calling us by sex position labels, yknow? (it's a different story when friends are joking around and both parties are okay with it. ex: my friends calling me a bottom and me laughing it off because i know they meant it in an insulting/joking way)