tbh this is the kinda shit that sends me lmaooooooooo. my only stance on this is, if you're obsessing over gay men in real life, probing into their sex life with invasive questions like "who's top/bottom/dom/sub," shipping your male friends with your classmates, pressuring your queer friends to come out of the closet, etc., then you need to get you...... reply
i'm sorry for not actually reading the multiple paragraphs you wrote but i think the short answer for the title of this topic would be uh, no, you cannot, since bl is centered around gay people, bl being fiction does not change that fact. hope you have a nice day and enjoy your sandwich 1 reply
i mean dont all (sl, gl and mlm) relationships work the same? i know it can be a little different but i hate the "uke"/"seme" thing anyways so it wouldnt rlly be too much of a biggie. 1 reply
Also have you guys seen those "yaoi" gacha life videos, like they have no idea how a gay relationship works. They basically make one guy the girl in the relationship and the other the man of the relationship. Rape is a big problem in those videos too, like it makes be disappointed how bl makes them think this is how gay relationships works. 5 reply
I mean yeah definitely. 90% of this site is teen girls. And BL is really fucking heteronormative and unrealistic so it’s definitely not teaching them anything good. 1 reply
i honestly didn’t read the thing, but here’s my take on the situation (which has probably changed from the last time i saw a question like this):
You can read BL and GL and not fetishise anyone. You’re reading a story about two people of the same gender and i really can’t grasp the issue of that, this is never debated for literature but is...... 1 reply
The majority of mlm fetishizers are young girls who have no knowledge ab mlm besides the bl they read. Like legitimately you can go on any bl tiktok, youtube video and the comments will be young girls calling it hot. Like they don't know how an actual mlm relationship works besides one being "uke" or "seme".
Personally, I don’t like using the word “fujoshi” for myself even though I read BL (and I read many other genres) and in my head I sometimes ship non-bl anime characters that are male. I don’t think I have a fetish for these things since I read BL for the art, romance, character relationships, feels and memorable plots. However, in my case,...... 1 reply
im sorry but just reading the title and kinda skimming through what you just wrote, imma have to say:
1) your question's pretty dumb (i mean yaoi/boys love is about *gay men*)
2) "-People who are fetishizing the characters because they're male
-People who are "fetishizing" the emotional interactions and feelings of the characters. (not sure who wo...... 2 reply
