i went out with this guy who liked me and i didn't have the heart to turn him down since he was really nice. we went out for 3 months before summer vacation started and i suddenly had to move away. he believed that we'd be together 'forever'. we were pretty tight during summer, and i visited once, but sadly it didn't work out and we started to disagree on some things. i had no idea i was grey romantic yet so the relationship felt really awkward and wrong in my point of view. he broke up with me in november (i was going to do it, but then again i didn't have the heart to do it) and he said we'd stay friends.
he lied about a lot of things. being together 'forever' and remaining as friends. i never really believed him anyway, but i think he's still a good person even though he blocked me on all social medias xD
it was relieving when it was finally over. yeah, i was sad and cried for a good fifteen minutes but then went on with my life.
this relationship was a good experience though and i don't regret it c:
im in a similar situation right now ;_; my best friend is very nice and when he confessed to me i couldnt turn him down (and since i've never had a relationship before i figured why not give it a try) lmao but rn he messages me sweet things and i cant even reply in a similar way coz i dont like to lie and i dont have any feelings for him T_T its been 2 months now and im planning on breaking up with him to tell him just to stay as friends... although im sort of dragging it out coz i dont wanna break up with him online so im waiting till we meet again in person which is around july. ;;;;
same here! There's this guy who asked my friend for my number. He was nice and I didn't have the heart to reject him straight so we ended up going in circles. Not to mention, everyone in the class was supporting us. I became too comfortable with him. We lasted for about 4 months. He became so annoying that I just snapped. Expecting me to reply to his messages within 3-5 mins is just insane! Well... I may be the one to blame for that. When I snapped, I totally blew it all off and even went as far as hiding my phone somewhere so I wouldn't see it. Coz I felt so irritated every time I see it. Lol XD When we saw each other again, I was so ashamed that I couldn't think of anything to say and so we ended up ignoring each other. That is, until he broke up with me. Through the same friend who gave him my number.（￣へ￣）The F, right? Rather than being broken-hearted, I was mad. He didn't have the balls to break up with me himself. It's definitely worse than breaking up through text for goodness sake! I found out later that the cause was his ex who happened to be another friend of mine. Apparently, she told him that I totally didn't care about our relationship so it's better if we break up. When I heard that, I thought, "Ah. So that's why she asked me if it hurts. Backstabbing bitch." I mean, hey! Though I didn't really love him as seriously as he did with me, I cared about and really did like him... as a person. And our relationship back then, although I just thought of experiencing a relationship and not because I Loved Loved him, I also placed an importance to it. Even though so many years have passed since then, he was still the only ex I have. That experience made me realize that getting into a relationship with someone is something important and something that you should really think through before you dive into.
i totally get what you mean by getting too comfortable because that's what happened to me too .-. i cared about my ex and liked him as a person too, but sadly it wasn't enough for us to stay friends #－.－) and i definitely agree with your last sentence. there are a lot of people my age who don't think seriously about relationships, but to me it's pretty big and scary since i rarely feel romantically attracted to anyone. and thank you for sharing even though it wasn't long distance (●'◡'●)ﾉ
i totally get what you mean by getting too comfortable because that's what happened to me too .-. i cared about my ex and liked him as a person too, but sadly it wasn't enough for us to stay friends #－.－) a... Takeshi
Aww! ╥﹏╥ Which do you think is better then? Cutting off ties with u like he did or remaining just as friends?
Aww! ╥﹏╥ Which do you think is better then? Cutting off ties with u like he did or remaining just as friends? UnsweetenedNotBitter
hmm i guess it kind of depends on what you feel about that person, at least in my opinion. for example, my ex was a great guy but we barely talked and we were always shy around each other for some reason. and when we were dating i told him a lot of stuff i've never told just anyone and well, it was painful when i saw him again after that, so it was good for me to cut ties with him because i felt so sad every time i saw him. my current boyfriend is a person who is very loud and energetic and jokes a lot and i never thought of him more of a friend, and we were very good friends before he asked me out. if we were to break up, i think we would remain as friends because it's so easy to talk to him. i guess it's because i haven't been with him as long and because i didn't tell him a lot about myself, but that's what i feel about. what i'm trying to say is, just do what your heart tells you (very over used line i know xD) if you think it would be okay to remain as friends then go for it! but if it hurts you seeing that person or even talk to them, i think it would be better to cut off ties to let your heart heal because no person deserves to feel gloomy over a boy. ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~
I guess it depends on the situation. With my ex and I, he tried getting me back twice. The first time was when we finally talked about what we did wrong and that was when I rejected him straight. Second time was a year after. In between those, he and the bitch got back together but they broke up again after some months. We remained friends after our breakup and we're still friends now, more like bestfriends, despite the fact that I rejected him twice. We also talk about our past so casually now, laughing at how stupid we were. But the are still slight awkwardness in my part. Dunno bout him. And yeah, he would sulk when I don't chat with him for a month and he sees the "SEEN". (*ﾟ▽ﾟ*) Haha thanks! But it makes you think of food and that makes u hungry. Lol (≧∀≦)
I completely get how you feel about that. I actually had a similar experience once before too. It is nice to know I'm not the only one who doesn't regret that relationship i had either (✿‿✿) It kinda showed me that certain people that are in your life that you care about will teach you things you never knew before. Like an eye opener. It sure does fascinate me how life works.
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im in a similar situation right now ;_; my best friend is very nice and when he confessed to me i couldnt turn him down (and since i've never had a relationship before i figured why not give it a try) lmao but rn he messages me sweet things and i cant even reply in a similar way coz i dont like to lie and i dont have any feelings for him T_T its been 2 months now and im planning on breaking up with him to tell him just to stay as friends... although im sort of dragging it out coz i dont wanna break up with him online so im waiting till we meet again in person which is around july. ;;;;
Altho mine wasn't really long distance haha! But I guess it was for a while. I went to Japan for some months back then.
same here! There's this guy who asked my friend for my number. He was nice and I didn't have the heart to reject him straight so we ended up going in circles. Not to mention, everyone in the class was supporting us. I became too comfortable with him. We lasted for about 4 months. He became so annoying that I just snapped. Expecting me to reply to his messages within 3-5 mins is just insane! Well... I may be the one to blame for that. When I snapped, I totally blew it all off and even went as far as hiding my phone somewhere so I wouldn't see it. Coz I felt so irritated every time I see it. Lol XD When we saw each other again, I was so ashamed that I couldn't think of anything to say and so we ended up ignoring each other. That is, until he broke up with me. Through the same friend who gave him my number.（￣へ￣）The F, right? Rather than being broken-hearted, I was mad. He didn't have the balls to break up with me himself. It's definitely worse than breaking up through text for goodness sake! I found out later that the cause was his ex who happened to be another friend of mine. Apparently, she told him that I totally didn't care about our relationship so it's better if we break up. When I heard that, I thought, "Ah. So that's why she asked me if it hurts. Backstabbing bitch." I mean, hey! Though I didn't really love him as seriously as he did with me, I cared about and really did like him... as a person. And our relationship back then, although I just thought of experiencing a relationship and not because I Loved Loved him, I also placed an importance to it. Even though so many years have passed since then, he was still the only ex I have. That experience made me realize that getting into a relationship with someone is something important and something that you should really think through before you dive into.
i totally get what you mean by getting too comfortable because that's what happened to me too .-. i cared about my ex and liked him as a person too, but sadly it wasn't enough for us to stay friends #－.－) and i definitely agree with your last sentence. there are a lot of people my age who don't think seriously about relationships, but to me it's pretty big and scary since i rarely feel romantically attracted to anyone. and thank you for sharing even though it wasn't long distance (●'◡'●)ﾉ
Aww! ╥﹏╥ Which do you think is better then? Cutting off ties with u like he did or remaining just as friends?
hmm i guess it kind of depends on what you feel about that person, at least in my opinion. for example, my ex was a great guy but we barely talked and we were always shy around each other for some reason. and when we were dating i told him a lot of stuff i've never told just anyone and well, it was painful when i saw him again after that, so it was good for me to cut ties with him because i felt so sad every time i saw him. my current boyfriend is a person who is very loud and energetic and jokes a lot and i never thought of him more of a friend, and we were very good friends before he asked me out. if we were to break up, i think we would remain as friends because it's so easy to talk to him. i guess it's because i haven't been with him as long and because i didn't tell him a lot about myself, but that's what i feel about. what i'm trying to say is, just do what your heart tells you (very over used line i know xD) if you think it would be okay to remain as friends then go for it! but if it hurts you seeing that person or even talk to them, i think it would be better to cut off ties to let your heart heal because no person deserves to feel gloomy over a boy. ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~
also i really like your username! it's very clever! (≧∀≦)
I guess it depends on the situation. With my ex and I, he tried getting me back twice. The first time was when we finally talked about what we did wrong and that was when I rejected him straight. Second time was a year after. In between those, he and the bitch got back together but they broke up again after some months. We remained friends after our breakup and we're still friends now, more like bestfriends, despite the fact that I rejected him twice. We also talk about our past so casually now, laughing at how stupid we were. But the are still slight awkwardness in my part. Dunno bout him. And yeah, he would sulk when I don't chat with him for a month and he sees the "SEEN". (*ﾟ▽ﾟ*)
Haha thanks! But it makes you think of food and that makes u hungry. Lol (≧∀≦)
it isn't unrequited then, just not compatible with each other, which i can related to.
even if it didn't work out, it was still nice. i'm glad i'm not the only one who feels this way :^)
I completely get how you feel about that. I actually had a similar experience once before too. It is nice to know I'm not the only one who doesn't regret that relationship i had either (✿‿✿) It kinda showed me that certain people that are in your life that you care about will teach you things you never knew before. Like an eye opener. It sure does fascinate me how life works.
yeah! definitely an eye opener for me because i never had experience in that kind of thing before (●'◡'●)ﾉ