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How should a person lose their virginity?
This has been bugging me for quite sometime now. I'm 26 years old, I'm self-consious about my appearance , and still live at home with my family. After reading SO MUCH yaoi, hentai, and watched my fair share of porn I've become curious about sex to the point where I feel like I'M LOSING MY MIND. So what's the best(or right) way to lose one's virginity should I throw myself at some stranger like a stereotypical slut or wait to meet the love of my life and lose myself in a passionate embrace? I know very well that sex is a part of life but I don't want to do anything that might cause me regret or lose my dignity but sometimes I just don't know what to do?
Well, that all depends on you! First of, think carefully about if you really want to have sex with another person. I don't know you so I don't know how you feel about this, are you just curious becaus of the influence of Yaoi/hentai/porn? Because if that's the case you might not actually want to have sex with someone else. It's still sex even if yo...... reply
Carefully, and with a person you trust. Trust me, don't rush it. I was fortunate to lose mine to the love of my life. (we're still together, 7 years :3) Now I'm not saying your experience will be just like mine, but you should do it if/when you find someone who actually likes you for you, and not just for sex (though it should be a pleasant bonus ;...... reply
I think even though you're eager to have your first time, don't throw yourself at a stranger. First, it's not safe. Second, It will hurt so it's better to do it with somebody you trust and will make you feel at ease. After that, you can throw yourself at anybody. ╮(￣▽￣)╭ 1 reply
I waited until I got married and I have never regreted the decision. Some might think me a prude, but not only do you increase your risk of STDs when more than one partner is involved, but if you think about it, your virginity is something you can give away only once in your lifetime. It is truly a one of a kind gift! Once it's gone, it can't be...... 2 reply
Considering your fear of regret and such, you really shouldn't just throw yourself at random stranger just to have sex. Some people can do it and enjoy it. If you're not that carefree, you'll just have a probably painful experience, lost of self-respect and new obligation of having to visit gynecologist more often.
I'm a virgin. But I don't think ...... 1 reply
There is no right way to do that, but there are safe and nice ways to do it.
I have been in a very close situation so, I will talk about what I chose, which I do not regret years later.
1) Be safe! Physically and mentally! Preferrably do not throw yourself with a stranger, be careful regarding contraception/STD transmission and your boundaries. Tr...... 1 reply
I think I'm probably the first person to reply that is in the same boat you're in right now. Out of college a couple years, 24, living with my parents, and also, being a virgin. I think the biggest problem is the social stigma that you are less of a person if you haven't ever had sex, which we can't give into. We aren't "losing" anything or anythin...... 2 reply
For some people, it's important to be in a relationship, to be in love, in a romantic and controled context. For others, it's correct with someone they just met and have sex with. You know, his not a fac that if you have sex with a stranger, than he can't be careful when make love with you. I think that both choices are ok. So you just need to refl...... reply
