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I don't know how long I can hang on

LadyBridy☃ LadyBridy☃ 2016-03-11 14:28:42 About long distant relationship
I've been in a long distance relationship for two years.

I can still remember my boyfriend‘s pretty eyes captivated my little teenage heart.

We're apart from the day we went to college. It didn’t seem like a big problem – we'll be in the same state and only two hours away from each other. However, the school proved very intensive. It required me to dedicate 100+ hours a week!!! Needless to say it becomes difficult to maintain a relationship.

It is painful. The worst part was feeling desperate for attention. Sometimes I feeling so lonely that I would hang up the phone and immediately begin crying. The distance is so real and cruel that you want to feel closer, you never satisfied with the small amount of time we had.

I don't know whether I can hang on this relationship.

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Lime February 8, 2017 12:59 pm

I've never had a LDR, but my best friend is having one for a year now. They're more than 3000 km away and they've known each other for around 2,5 - 3 years. They had met in RL by chance, flirted for a long time via e-mail after that and finally got together a year ago. For the distance, they could meet only once a year and the occasions were always such that they could meet only for a couple of hours per day, or even only for a couple of hours just during one day. They regularly speak and write to each other via phone (for some reason, they don't like the skype, so they don't have camera contact at all). It's hard, they love each other very much and miss each other all the time. But, to cut long story short and to give you some encouragement: yesterday he bought her a ring and he's going to meet her this summer in her city, in her country, whereafter he is bringing her to his home to live with him, and they're getting married.

So, hang on! Good things do happen when the people are just right!! For me, it's a real modern fairytale and I'm so happy for both of them! And I wish you the best luck!!

ZaraSM March 16, 2016 5:50 am

I'm going to be depressing.

Honestly I did the same thing for two years. As great as they were (dated 5 years total) I found a lot more happiness when I was finally able to let go.
Having my emotional state rely so much on them was too rough and not good for either of us.
I found no amount of communication could make up for the loneliness. Letting go was one of the hardest things i've ever done, but life isn't fair.
Talk to them about it, tell them its hard, I do believe some people can do it. I also hope and wish for the best of luck to you.

Just make sure they are aware of how much they mean to you, and how much it hurts. It's important that both of you are on the same page with how you feel.

LadyBridy☃ March 16, 2016 9:09 am

oh... whatever I'm happy for you (●'◡'●)ノ

リアンナ March 11, 2016 11:55 pm

I'm in the same boat. I've been in LDR for almost 2 1/2 years. It's been a year since we've seen each other last. Talking over the phone, computer, or webcam is never the same as talking or seeing them in person. However, I'm willing to wait as long as I can for it to work out. It's difficult, but I think it may be worth it.

LadyBridy☃ March 13, 2016 7:03 am

oh, it must be tough... sometime I think it may be worth but sometime I just beaten up by the tough ╥﹏╥
whatever, we should cheer up!

リアンナ March 13, 2016 7:44 am
oh, it must be tough... sometime I think it may be worth but sometime I just beaten up by the tough ╥﹏╥ whatever, we should cheer up! LadyBridy☃

Let's stay as optimistic as we can. (●'◡'●)ノ Good luck.

LadyBridy☃ March 13, 2016 7:46 am
Let's stay as optimistic as we can. (●'◡'●)ノ Good luck. リアンナ

(づ ̄ ³ ̄)づ Thank you! Good luck.

SD_86 March 11, 2016 5:01 pm

Hang in there! There's mobile phones, skype, FB, instragram, wechat all to your access. I've experience that too but time can really be such an annoying think. Its like you can't wait to see each other again. Tho mobile fones are so handy you can use your imagination ⁄(⁄ ⁄·⁄ω⁄·⁄ ⁄)⁄

LadyBridy☃ March 13, 2016 7:05 am

ok, I got your point ⁄(⁄ ⁄·⁄ω⁄·⁄ ⁄)⁄ ⁄(⁄ ⁄·⁄ω⁄·⁄ ⁄)⁄ (づ ̄ ³ ̄)づ