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Should I be concerned?
My boyfriend has been making comments when we're in class that make me think he might be gay. He even told me today that he had dream about him dating me and a guy. I'm 16 and this is my first ever relationship. I've been dating him for almost 4 months and I really do like him. Should I be concerned? I don't want to hurt his feelings by asking him if he might be gay, but I don't want to be in a relationship if he doesn't really like me.
Just be honest with him. It's probably really confusing and scary for him too. Give him time to figure it out because maybe he might be bi or pan. Just be open and communicate. reply
Bi maybe. Just don't put him on the spot. If it turns out he is gay don't stop being his friend unless he is a total ass hat.
First guy I ever dated was gay. Back in the 90s people were not as open as they are now about it. I found out by watching him drill holes with his eyes into Army recruiter's ass and make comment I wouldn't mind doing it wi...... 1 reply
Not sure why a man being bisexual is such a foreign concept. And I'm not attacking you here, OP. It's just something that is never really brought up in conversations like this. But yeah, he's probably bisexual. Try asking him, but not being too confrontational and instead being open-minded. reply
gay and straight aren't the only sexualities, you know. he could be bi and polyamourous. you should ask him about it but don't accuse him of being gay or cheating. just bring it up and ask him what he's feeling. 1 reply
In psychology, we talk about gender and sexuality being spectrums. So, people are "more or less straight" as opposed to just gay or straight. Such "either-or" categories rarely exist in psychology. People are messy and complex, so naturally, gender and sexuality are too. I'd recommend bringing up this spectrum idea to him and ask him what he thinks...... reply
You also have to consider that he may not have realized his own sexuality yet. So, even if you ask, he won't know. And the most likely answer you will get is an emphatic "No". A single dream is not enough evidence to conclude that he is gay or even bisexual. Especially if he is around the same age as you. At 16, a guys hormones are just as all over...... 1 reply
i dont really know a lot about relationships, but he might not be gay, he might be just bisexual. just a suggestion, but it's better to ask than keep it to yourself. communicating is the best choice. good luck! reply
It's possible to love more than one person -
Polyamory. Also love and sex are completely different things. A healthy & happy relationship doesn't need to include sex. There are endless possibilitys in and endless kinds of relationships. And yeah hormones play an interesting part in teenage years. Also sometimes it takes time to figure out your own...... 1 reply
