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I THINK I'M BEING GROOMED BY MY STEPDAD
Okay so basically I'm not sure if some of you remember the first time I talked about my stepdad trying to enter the bathroom whilst I was clearly in it and the fact that he was fully aware of it because he saw me go in whilst he was coming up the stairs. But ever since then I've been really cautious and wary around him because he's always super nice to me and acknowledges me more than my older brother who lives with us. I noticed one time I came in and he was all smiles whilst greeting me but when my brother came into the living room his face was blank and he greeted him normally. Also big red warning sign he's been giving me a lot of money and doesn't give any money to my brother which is really strange. My mum knows that he gives me money and doesn't give any to my brother and doesn't say anything but I don't think she thinks anything of it. The second time he tried to come into the toilet it finally clicked that he was doing this on purpose because I swear that I locked it yet he managed to open it? It sent shivers down my spine. That was a few months before. And guess what? It happened today again. Before going to the toilet, I saw him downstairs in the garden but as soon as I went upstairs to go to the toilet he tries to come in. There is no way in hell that is a coincidence, right? When he tried to come in, I quickly shut the door before he could get a glimpse and screamed NO SOMEONE IS IN HERE and after that all he said was "Okay." Another red flag because isn't the appropriate response supposed to be I'm sorry? When I got out of the toilet, I shouted make sure to knock next time and at the time I yelled this he was already downstairs with my mum in the living room and the door was open so I'm sure my mum heard.
Guys, I don't want to seem crazy and I know if I tell my mum she'll brush it under the rug and say it's all in my head or she'll say it's because I don't want her to be happy that's what she said to me last time I cried during Christmas dinner when I asked about my dad in front of my mum, stepdad and older brother because I was thinking about how my dad would be spending Christmas alone.
At this point, I'm prepared to start shit and confront this guy about what he's doing to me.
oof ima just let you know i will be here and rooting for you fam. You should probably tell your mom you want a change in places and maybe move into the house of someone you trust for a few days. Tell an adult who you think would trust you 100% reply
This is definitely not normal you should be careful near him. If you think your mom won't do anything about it, tell about this to your brother. Always lock your doors and take the key with you. If he continues doing these creepy things I think you should confront him. This is no joke and he is being really suspicious. reply
Confront him about it. Say that your not comfortable with how he’s acting and you feel like you are being unfairly treated and your brother should at least get the same things that you do so it’s fair (I mean the money and friendliness).
Also try to get evidence of any inappropriate behavior if anything happens
Stay safe bb. ️ reply
Ok this all sounds alarming, let me just say that your feelings are valid and you have every right to feel uncomfortable. Your stepdad should have learned how to knock when the first bathroom incident happened. Thats being said I don't think starting shit up is gonna help your case, you said your mother kind of brushed you off about it so if you po...... reply
I hope that you know this behaviours are NOT ALRIGHT . What you could try to do :
- Try making a sign / note that you stick on front of the toilet when you're occupying it. Make sure it's BIG and OBVIOUS so there's no excuse for him not to know
- Avoid him as much as possible.
- If you can and are willing to, reject the money or any gifts he's...... reply
Never been in a situation like this, but for safety you should probably:
- Purchase a weapon(maybe a baseball bat so that it don't seem sus)
- Make sure to get out of the house a lot more often(bcuz if you ever decide to run away or sneak out its gon be a bit less obvious)
- Keep a backpack near you with essential items and cash
- Make sure to kee...... reply
I don't want to sound like an asshole or like i'm trying to invalidate you but i don't think he's trying to groom you. I get that walking in on you in the bathroom is weird but you said it happened months apart so it could be a coincidence and about him opening the door when you locked it, if it was locked he would have needed a key and since you s...... reply
Okay hun, please be careful and alert when you're with him! Here are a few things you can do-
-Keep you phone with you ALWAYS, when you're out of your room, in the toilet, dining table basically every damn place there's a chance you'd meet him. Keep a number, any number your brother's, a help line number, a friend's anyone you can trust as your spe...... reply
Well, first of all: You are NOT overthinking anything, this is suspicious as fuck and also, alarming as fuck.
I saw one or two people giving you advice about trying to gather evidence. You're neither a private investigator nor a police officer. Gathering evidence isn't your job. Don't put yourself in harms way for something so stupid!
But something...... reply
