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Men being compared to women in BL
Is it just me or is every time a man is compared to a woman in BL just super insulting on all accounts? Like, I get it, almost all BL is written by women for women, so you'd want to compare your characters to your audience so your readers can live vicariously through the story or whatever, but I've always found it to be really irritating rather than relatable? Because it's always one of two things. Either Character A says "you can do _____ to me because I'm not a woman," in which case, fuck off, some girls like those things too, not every woman is a delicate flower that needs to be treated like glass. Or, Character A says something along the lines of "make me a woman" or "do _____ to me like I'm a woman" which...No??? A gay man isn't a woman just because he's also sexually attracted to men. A big part of the whole genre is that the main characters are very specifically NOT women, and to treat them like they're just stand-ins for female characters has always felt super disrespectful to me. Has this ever bothered anybody else? Or am I taking an inherently somewhat problematic genre too seriously and ruining what should be an otherwise fun time by thinking too hard about meaningless things?
Mm no, your point is valid and makes 101% sense (this is not sarcastic btw.) the amount of stereotypes and the way people will use fiction to twist us into their exact desired reality sometimes is really sick. I've encountered people who have asked for gay men turning straight manga, or people that absolutely just don't care about us as humans and ...... reply
this a huge problem which no one talks about. a feminine man is different than someone who is a replacement for a woman. it clearly shows how different this is, being on the bottom is not a 'woman's role' lmao. it cant be helped because it is a straight woman writing about a queer relationship which she has no idea or experience about but in rare c...... reply
Yes I've noticed this a lot and it's usually something like getting to be rough with them during s*x just cause they aren't women which is so problematic reply
Nono your opinion is very valid, like I would get it if the mc likes a dude who is somewhat straight yk "he can't like me cause he likes girls" stuff like that, but damn when it comes to sex or whatever? That's so irritating. "ill make you a woman", "you moan like a girl", "you look cute like a girl" etc that's just.. Ugh. What was the point of BL ...... 1 reply
I'm glad there is someone addressing this problem, I've always thought it weird and was always put off by mangas, manhwas, and the like because bl's almost always include lines like "u moan like a girl" or "I'll make u my woman" and I'm just like... no, please stop reply