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Reject touchy ppl
I have this new neighbor also a student at my uni who's really touchy, we're different sex, he's a really well educated and really nice guy but I don't like guys touching my shoulders it makes me feel disgusted. I don't want to hurt his feelings bc he's black so he may take it the wrong way and I want to stay good friends.
black?? since when did race matter. it doesnt matter what skin tone makes you uncomfortable if a human being touches you dont be scared to stop them. 2 reply
be honest with him. tell him nicely that you're not comfortable with people touching you. if he really wants to be friends he's gonna understand a simple request.. him being black has nothing to do with this whole thing. 1 reply
It’s important to learn to be assertive when it comes to things like this. You don’t need to be rude or mean, just next time he goes to touch you step out from it and say something like, “Sorry, I should probably let you know that I am not good with being touched by others. It’s just a me thing, but I find it’s always worked better with m...... 1 reply
Id like you to approach the subject the moment he tries again to touch you, not rudely. ( I know the exact feeling you are talking about and I’m sorry you’re going through this, it’s…revolting.)
What I’d say may not be what you’d say in that situation but it’s be along the lines of “I feel like I can open up to you, this is a very s...... 1 reply
Dude I’ve been there. I think you’re a girl so I’m framing this from a female perspective. To many guys (whether it’s conscious or not) bank on the fact women worry more about being rude then their own comfort and safety. It’s such a problem that I had to sit my daughter down to talk about what to do when (bc it will be when not if), a gu...... 1 reply
