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Do you think it's homophobic to like BL but not GL?
I'm not sure if I got gaslighted or what, but I had this convo with an internet friend, they were asking for a romance recommendation, and I did gave it to them, a GL story specifically.
Then like 5mins later they asked for something different because they didn't like the plot (?) Despite me recommending them the story because it had their fav trope and dynamic, and the plot was similar to the story she was recently obsessed. Well I shrugged it of not thinking much, but since right now my interest lies in GL, I continued to recommend her some.
Then she straight up told me to recommend her other things that wasn't GL, and that got me confused cuz she read BL (that's how we even got close) that's why I thought she wouldn't have a problem with my recs and that she just didn't genuinely like the plot. Then she proceeded to tell me it was because it made her feel uncomfortable and GL stories felt forced or unnatural. So I told her that was Homophobic thought, then she denied it and said she read BL which was Homosexual (that if she was homophobic she wouldn't be reading it.), that it's not like she has actual issues with wlw couple irl nor does she hate them or call them name, and she was "friends" with me who was bi.
its not homophobic to not enjoy gl, its a preference. the same way dudes love lesbian porn but wont jack off to a dude getting dicked down (majority of the time the preference be weird n fetishized either way ). but the way she said it ?????? maybe it wasnt intended that way, or she hasnt read actual good ones but thats a microagression either way...... 1 reply
Yeah tbh as a queer woman myself this seems like some straight girl shit. I've met so many straight girls call themselves allies but the second anyone mentions queer women and female bodied people they get all uncomfortable and start saying the same shit your friend did, meaning in a lot of cases they really only 'support' (or fetishize in a lot of...... reply
Who cares? You are here seeking validation for judging a friend, it says more about you than them. This is why you just got to do your own thing in life you never gonna pls everyone an real friends get you where youre at without labeling you so jus be you
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No - I understand she went on her explanation unprompted so this isn’t necessarily at you but people really shouldn’t have to explain why they don’t like something.
I’m Lesbian and I have a strong dislike for GL and cannot read it most times. There are far and few series I enjoy. That’s because for me I have tendency to project onto fema...... 4 reply
In this case it might be, but I wouldn't make that generalization. I personally prefer bl not because I'm homophobic (I'm a gay man) but because nothing draws me to gl. I think in this case, she might like the gays when they're doing their own thing i.e gay men, but when they might be attracted to her i.e lesbians, she finds it uncomfortable. That ...... reply
That feels p fetishy, if they truly like romance as a genre then they should be open to reading romance regardless of gender, maybe its just me personally but I don't see why gender matters when it comes to romance as a genre
However, just like how some gl readers may not like bl I suppose it makes sense in a way, as people do have preferences for...... 1 reply
Honestly, I don't think she is homophobic, cuz some people like one genre but proceed to not like the other. I understand that they are both lgbtq genres but some people are very uncomfortable with specific genres, which is ok. But I feel like she could have worded her opinion better, but I do understand where she is coming from, so personally I wo...... reply
shes quite obviously a mlm fetishist who reads bl BECAUSE its a man x man NOT because she likes romance. yes she is prob homophobic... she is blatantly calling gl "forced" and "unnatural". like UNNATURAL?? reply
