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am i misandrist for defending the 'man v. bear' argument
okay obviously STUPID question but im just not sure if i have internalized misandry and i just cant think with nuance?
i asked a male friend of mine if he understood the man v. bear thing and he was just so offended by the argument. ofc i tried to explain that its not so much misandry and that women realistically do not have a lot of people (men) to trust in the world and he argues that it IS misandry and what the chances are of us actually being put with a creep/ist. he kept saying that obviously with the bear that theres a bigger chance of us dying than being assaulted by a man, where i argued that some women just care about their safety and he said "so you guys will choose death as safety"
he was just defensive and of course i get that... people are naturally defensive when they, well, feel the need to defend themselves, duh. but he just called me misandrist and generally he was being aggressive and told me that he's just giving back the same energy (stupid answer for a stupid question) when i asked if he needed to be so rude about making a point, and i just cant help but think if i was being unfair? because i know the feeling of feeling wronged and that if a sexist begins arguing with me that is also how ill likely respond, so i dont know if i need to reflect. am i sexist, am i misandrist? i genuinely try not to be because theres enough hate in the world for and on both sides, i want to be fair towards both men and women since we are all in it together at the end of the day.
can someone who can think with nuance tell me if i have some issues i need to be aware of?
Over 80% of women have experienced some type of sexual harassment. You understanding and defending them is not being a misandrist. People sometimes have a hard time extending empathy when it’s not their problem. So when they disagree with you they will call you lots of labels to make you the problem because no one wants to be a bad guy.
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the slight misandry he experienced will never amount to the level of vitriolic misogyny women experience throughout and after their life. i'm making assumptions but he's either offended that men, as an entire gender, are being grouped as bad guys or your statement hit too close to home lol. you aren't misandrist or sexist for making statements that...... 1 reply
Nah thats not misandry thats an intense exhaustion from how ignorant men are to the things women face on the daily. They have the mental space to not consider even 10% of what women have to worry about in their every day life so ofc theyre gonna act like you’re personally attacking them even tho you only just pose a hypothetical question with no ...... 1 reply
Isn’t the man vs bear argument about dying. Like would you rather die by man or bear, and the whole thing was that bears only kill you to protect themselves or for food or something, but men will kill for pleasure and can and will kill you in the most horrible and painful ways possible? And isn’t the whole thing about men being confused and mad...... 2 reply
I feel so flipping stupefied reading this. What you said was your own personal belief; he had no reason to get so upset and rude with you about a "question" and your own input on the matter at hand too. I don't really know much about your gender, pronouns, or anything, but if I was you I'd seriously want to reconsider that friendship with the way...... 1 reply
In my opinion, neither of you are wrong. And no, you aren't a misandrist.
I understand his point, and I also think that the question is stupid, but I don't think it's wrong to say you choose the bear. As long as it's not a polar-bear or something, you'll way more likely be fine.
Which brings me to this, if a bear attack is 1 of 2.1 million (stati...... reply
You aren't being misandrist from what I'm reading. Coming with the context of what I read, to men I get it is offensive because they're mostly depicted as (s)a/h-ers, and to women because they did have to go through the actuality of it. I just don't think it was the proper way to use misandry from the given opinions + context of the question (along...... reply
