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am i the asshole
I told my plus size "friend" her activism is making shopping exhausting? Look, i’m a skinny and just wants to grab cute clothes and go but lately, every trip with her turns into a whole thing. she guilt trips me for shopping at stores she’s boycotting, calls me ‘part of the problem’ if i don’t wanna protest with her, and says i ‘don’t get it’ because i can fit into anything. i finally snapped and said ‘maybe if you spent less time yelling at stores and more time at the gym, you wouldn’t need to demand they change for you.’ now she’s crying and our friends are calling me a fatphobic monster. AITA for being honest, or is she just mad because im right?
i think both of u are the asshole in the situation
she shouldn't go shopping w u if she's just gonna be all controlling w ur choices, and u shouldn't have said the more time at the gym part, because sometimes fat people do go to the gym. it just doesn't 'look the part'
that's just me being reasonable but if I were in ur shoes, I would've said som...... 1 reply
You weren't being honest you were being a bitch... There's some social cues you have to adhere too
And targeting her weakness is not something a friend would do.
In a nice and firm manners you could have told her your side of the story but it was your choice to be rude so, there face the consequences 2 reply
The reality is not all clothes stores can offer clothes for everyone. Every store has clothes that fit certain body types and expecting ALL stores to have clothes that fit you perfectly is ridiculous. I will say poking at her sore point was the wrong way to go. Best counter arguments use facts. If you wanted to argue against her protest give logic ...... reply
Uv asked smthing like this before and i just keep wondering how u and that friend of urs are even friends cos u both seem to have a toxic dynamic 1 reply
yes you are the asshole, that is a cruel thing to say to anyone, especially your friend (Assumingly someone you care about).
I understand that it is frustrating, but also assumingly you invited her to go shopping, she's not guilt tripping you, she's telling you why she cannot go into those stores. Assuming she's actually plus size, she literally ...... 1 reply
Ur both in the wrong. From an outside point of view, I understand that u were fed up with her constantly making shopping trips about activism and her saying u don't understand since ur skinny, like I hate when people try to push their beliefs onto me but you could've approached it differently like confronting her on the comment she made on you not ...... reply
You're not an asshole, You maybe somewhat in the wrong. The way she said to you "Must be nice you can fit to anything" is sarcastic. And your friends calling you fatphobic doesn't even care about your side of your story reply
She doesnt yell on a treadmill but can yell at you for fitting into clothes? That line wouldnt be crossed if she knew how to keep some shit to herself but has the nerve to cry to the friend GROUP to escalate the situation instead of talking it out WITH the person who said it ? /She said what she said to you and you said what you said to her vice ...... 1 reply
