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Rant: some1 gets u smthing u dislike
Theres this korean instant noodles that I rlly like and theres a version of it thats shrimp flavored which i absolutely hate. I have been very vocal about my hatred for it that im pretty sure everyone around me knows it like basic info.
So yesterday I craved (BIG CRAVING) for those noodles (the not-shrimp-flavored one obvsly). So I asked my husband to buy me some and he left and it took him hours to come back cos he had other errands and my noodles were just a side quest but i endured my hunger and waited patiently anyway. He comes home tired with the shrimp flavored one and he hoped id still be glad enough he at least brought me back something instead of nothing cos the store he checked only had the shrimp variation (there r other stores nearby but he didnt bother to check them).
and well how would you feel in my situation? I kept telling myself its such a small thing and its so childish to even be angry and disappointed and frustrated about it, but i was. And i couldn't even express myself in my own home cos my visiting mother and mother-in-law was in the house and i felt like if i showed how upset I was over something so little they'll all just shoot me down like some toddler throwing a tantrum cos thats what they do best.
So i dryly said thanks and cooked the noodles and ate 2 bites and threw it up (cos forcing urself to eat something u dislike while keeping the I-wanna-scream-and-cry lump in ur throat will purge u of wtvr ur eating) and went through lunch, dinner, and bed having eaten nothing. And today i woke up still upset about the whole thing and rn im mad at myself for still feeling that way cos im goddamn adult acting like a spoiled child all bcos i wanted noodles. Like, i wish I never even asked for it or i wish my husband just didn't get anything at all.
Why do I have to just be the bigger person and be fucking grateful for receiving something I hate just cos someone made the effort to get it despite being tired
You should have made it and given it to him. "Thanks babe, I made it for you for your hard work." And just not eat, then talk about it calmly a few days later when you've calmed down (only with him).
It wasn't his fault, he tried, but like you said, he was tired.
Still, your feelings are valid, but this is literally a first world problem. Feel ...... 2 reply
Talk to your husband and communicate with him properly instead of letting your emotions simmer and building resentment.
Questions
1. You said you've been vocal with your dislike with it so have you told him directly?
2. Has something like this happened in the past?
3. Why did you still eat it 1 reply
If I was in your situation I would take the opportunity to communicate with my partner. It can be difficult to buy things for others, especially if you end up making a mistake. Something simple like, “I really appreciate that you got these noodles for me, but I don’t like the shrimp flavor. Maybe I can send you images next time you go on a shop...... 1 reply
I'm sorry, but you’re behaving like a small child throwing a tantrum, how old are you? What bothers me is that you expected him to go to several other stores after he spent a long time running other errands. I never even behaved like that towards my parents. I think that’s the reason your husband didn’t do the logical thing and gave you a cal...... 2 reply
this is way deeper than some shrimp flavored noodles. it's the thought that counts but is it rly thoughtful to buy the specific flavor that u hate? yes he's tired, but a quick text or call wouldve finished this whole issue. ure admitting that ure disappointed in urself for reacting like this, ur feelings r okay and always valid, what matters is ur ...... reply
If you’re like me, the noodles is part of it. When I’m really looking forward to something and the other person disappoints me I’m upset. Especially if I feel like they didn’t care or try. However, i constantly invalidate my own feelings.
“It’s not even that serious.”
“I’m being ungrateful.”
“I shouldn’t overreact.”
I’...... reply
I think you should definitely talk to him about it whenever you can because it could lead into deeper things or simply trigger something in you because it’s very strange regardless if he was tired that he brought something he KNOWS you don’t like and thought you would still be content about. You had one request and not a major one at that, in g...... reply
honestly, seems like your husband (as you said) was tired, didn’t see what you wanted & then panicked and brought home the shrimp noodles just to show you he tried to look and made an effort & probably didn’t expect you to actually eat it. both of you acted irrationally, but that’s human, we do weird things if we’re tired or panicky or anno...... 1 reply
