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Rant or advise me pls ?
Maybe not a rant but more like advice. My partner is upset with me because sometimes the way I say or text things comes off much colder than I mean to (in hindsight, I’m not good at seeing that I do that). They know that I don’t mean things harshly but still lets it upset them. It’s also commonly known that I’m not a particularly nice person but I am kind (I don’t say mean things to people for no reason). I have a pretty neutral personality. I have been pondering this all week while they’ve been gone on vacation because I really cannot see how what I said had any mean intonations and I’m starting to wonder if perhaps we are just too emotionally incompatible? I don’t want to second guess my words all the time nor do I want to hurt them but our sensitivity scales seem far different. I’ve never had a partner respond this negatively to my dialogue and it’s sort of links to just who I am which makes it a difficult change and maybe an unnecessary one. Being a sweetie just isn’t me. What do you all think of this? Is emotional incompatibility a thing? I think I’m not ignorant to rude texts/language so I’m at a loss.
ppl like your partner are insufferable twats. ask yourself how far you're willing to contort to appease their fragile ego. texting is a tool for communication, not a stage for emotional theatre. tell them to unpack their shit in therapy. we've normalized this exhausting culture of constant availability, and it's bullshit for far too long reply
Yes as someone who was in your spot before and that guy too but with friends, they're abit too emotional. If you're not mean or anything, you don't have the intention then you aren't the problem. They are if you kinda said to them you're not trying to be mean or anything. However I won't suggest break up immediately, ask your friends about this too...... 1 reply
Can you maybe give some examples as to how you text? Because honestly a small change to your regular text can completely change the way it can be said.
However, if you feel that it is an unnecessary change then you dont have to change the way you text but personally i feel like itd be better to because having the way you text come between a relat...... 1 reply
Do you like walking on egg shells? No? It's a bye felicia then
(edit) nwm just read an example of you texting. I honestly also don't fw ppl who text like you 1 reply
The fact that this is exactly what happens with my bff is insane for i moment i thought i might have written the message instead of you , anyway talk to your partner about it first , tell them that you're a frank person and sugar coating things is not something you can do or atleast don't want to with someone who you're supposed to be very comfort...... reply
I'd advise you to talk and communicate. But, if they act like a fucking baby and feels like they're being confronted or something, then you have your answer. reply
I’m just like you, so yea lmao I know the feeling when someone gets randomly in their feels abt a very blunt statement I didn’t think there was anyway to misinterpret. But anyways, emotional incompatibility is a huge thing, I’m studying psychology and know a bit about it, but there are people that you literally will never be on the same wavel...... 1 reply
This is happened to me when I was a teen, I adapted. I modified my autocorrect to miss spell words as I type them and I try to keep track of how other people text so I copy them. Also adjusted my own way of saying this so I sound more passive
It's exhausting and emotional taxing to rewrite everything to not push someone else's bottoms, I got used ...... reply
if u really like this person u should listen to them and try ur best to adapt to their emotional needs.
however if u think u just cannot adapt and dont want to leave them, then u should communicate to them how you feel abt it. together u guys can talk it out and come to a conclusion on whether or not u should stay together reply
well honestly you know eachother best, does how you text take away that much from how you feel when you’re together ? maybe you guys can send voice notes as sometimes it is easy to come off harsh on text or maybe if it’s specifically during disagreement or arguments try and make sure you discuss it in person or over phone call instead of relyin...... 1 reply
