As someone who had 12 exes here are my advices and tips for you.
1. Just know that any partner who truly loves you... They can always do better. Don't settle for anybody less or be a pushover. It's okay to get angry and set boundaries. It's not selfish, it's called "self-respect". You are allowed to want them to commit more or be more affectionate or be respectful but also ofc you give them something too as relationship is mutual.
2. Fighting is absolutely normal in relationships, only time isn't normal isn't when it becomes physical or it's very consrant. That's abuse. You can disagree, have misunderstanding and make mistakes with them and it doesn't mean you always have to break up. Sometimes fights, brings people closer together after some MAKING UP.
3. You don't have to give everything to your partner, there are things we can't give such as our full attention. We have other relationships to maintain, i.e friendships and family. It's OKAY to refuse to a date! You don't need to always give your time to them if you have other plans.
4. Sex, it's a serious thing to have and talk about but I suggest you guys waited 2-3 months into your relationship before doing it. That way, you'll learn that your partner is not just with you for sex or body. Going to sex right away in your relationship is often red flags.
5. You are NOT responsible for their mental health, don't sacrifice yourself just to make them happy or comfort them. There are times we can't be there for them always, you aren't a therapist. You're a partner who can SOMETIMES support and make them happy. You also have your own mental health to deal with and your issues. You're also allowed to leave if you think they're making you too depressed, don't overthink Abt their threats because that's not normal.
6. Sometimes, break ups are meant to happen. It's for both of your sakes so if you notice ofc your partner hasn't been treating you well or that you don't like it anymore, break up. A relationship means nothing if it's loveless and painful.
May anyone also add advices in the replies, this is just from my own experience :)
Are you currently dating someone? If so how do you know that you like someone/want to date them? Dating is such a complicated subject for me because there’s just so many factors in it that I can’t seem to comprehend. I think I’m gonna be lonely forever because my first relationship didn’t work out the way I wished it did.
Loving someone is different for many others, I think you'll just know you like them as I can't give you the answer to that. Though I knew I loved my current bf because I realized how much he means to me, I started to get jealous and stuff lol before I knew it I realized I like them and it wasn't just "jokes" between us anymore. I thought things for like days when he confessed to me. Also yeah relationships are like that, they're unexpected. Not all relationships will be perfect that's why some people have alot of exes before settling to someone forever.
I'm sure you won't be lonely forever, someone will be there for you. Maybe you have crossed paths with them and you don't know but I know is that is often unexpected.
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Are you currently dating someone? If so how do you know that you like someone/want to date them? Dating is such a complicated subject for me because there’s just so many factors in it that I can’t seem to comprehend. I think I’m gonna be lonely forever because my first relationship didn’t work out the way I wished it did.
Loving someone is different for many others, I think you'll just know you like them as I can't give you the answer to that. Though I knew I loved my current bf because I realized how much he means to me, I started to get jealous and stuff lol before I knew it I realized I like them and it wasn't just "jokes" between us anymore. I thought things for like days when he confessed to me. Also yeah relationships are like that, they're unexpected. Not all relationships will be perfect that's why some people have alot of exes before settling to someone forever.
I'm sure you won't be lonely forever, someone will be there for you. Maybe you have crossed paths with them and you don't know but I know is that is often unexpected.