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Going to gay bar first time
Any tips/advice? Feel free to share your experiences, I’m sure it would help me understand how it’s like..
I will update after I go. We plan to go tonight. After some support from people, I felt a bit more confident and told my friend that we can go to a gay bar. She is lesbian, we have a beard relationship (all consensual) but only for public, had asked me to go to a bar when I turned 21 last month and I was too nervous. I have never gone to any bars, especially gay bar. It will also be my first time drinking. It will be her, me, and a few of her other friends.
I was asking her a bunch of questions: I’m bisexual, do they allow me? (Dumb question LOL) Is it for both gay women and men or mostly men?
She told me the specific bar in mind is open to both, and it’s more accepting of anyone LGBTQ+, be it half or fully.
I could never do this back in China… well either ways I was a minor at the time. But I heard from peers there that some bars had to hide the gay part, they would be discreet about it, and sometimes relocate or something due to annoying authorities. Funny because some ‘higher ups’ are involved in the bars they hate so much (said by my other friend’s auntie who both live in China, it’s one reason some bars can be protected although it isn’t long term / not common, not an immunity). It is really location dependent, how big cities is etc. It’s not as open as here in the US it seems. I’m glad my parents decided to move here.