This is not the site to ask about this I’m sorry lol but I’m in second semester of first year in uni and I love it all except for the friends aspect. I’ve made like 3 friends and only one of them is in my course (and we’re not suppperr close) I went out during freshers and talked to loads of people, I talk to whoever I can during lessons because I’m not a shy person but it’s like I missed my ooperunity and I don’t know what makes me different than other people who have formed tight friendships groups that are going clubbing every weekend which is what I want. I’m not living in accom because I can’t and so maybe that’s why but still. I’m just so sad because I thought it would finally be different for me. I don’t think I’ll have other friends for the rest of the 3yrs and I’m extremely worried and depressed about it.
Some might just look “tight” to not feel left out or whatever. If you’re really desperate tho, be approachable but not too accessible. Be calm and don’t be too excited when greeting everyone you see. For people around your age, too much enthusiasm reeks of desperation and that’s not cool. In other words, pretend to be someone else. Otherwise, it’s fine to have few friends. People you meet at uni aren’t people you get to stay friends with for a long time unless you end up working together.
I’m in my second year and although I’m super shy I made 3 friends last year and it was just by sitting next to them. I went to uni everyday and sat next to people instead of sitting in the back even tho it’s more comfortable. I would ask questions about the courses we’re studying and try my best to keep the convo going until I feel like it’s right to ask for their instagram or any social they have. If you’re lucky you could talk online like they reply to your story or something if not just like one story of theirs and the next day try sitting next to them and talk with them the key is repeating this pattern and try to make it seem smooth not forced (good luck and remember that you don’t necessarily need friends to go out, I lost all the friends I made in my first semester bc our bond was shallow all we did was hang out we never tried to deepen our friendship, the right friend will come naturally instead of plotting like I did)
I'm really sorry that you feel this way. I'm in my second year of university, I don't know about you but fresher "friends" or acquaintances never last long anyways. I only found my friends because I was in a social science course with likeminded people and because I went to society events of my own interests. Have u been to any socs? Or events of your own interests? I also want to say that your one friend is very valuable and you dont necessarily need plenty because quality over quantity is important. I wish u the best <3
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Some might just look “tight” to not feel left out or whatever. If you’re really desperate tho, be approachable but not too accessible. Be calm and don’t be too excited when greeting everyone you see. For people around your age, too much enthusiasm reeks of desperation and that’s not cool. In other words, pretend to be someone else. Otherwise, it’s fine to have few friends. People you meet at uni aren’t people you get to stay friends with for a long time unless you end up working together.
I’m in my second year and although I’m super shy I made 3 friends last year and it was just by sitting next to them. I went to uni everyday and sat next to people instead of sitting in the back even tho it’s more comfortable. I would ask questions about the courses we’re studying and try my best to keep the convo going until I feel like it’s right to ask for their instagram or any social they have. If you’re lucky you could talk online like they reply to your story or something if not just like one story of theirs and the next day try sitting next to them and talk with them the key is repeating this pattern and try to make it seem smooth not forced (good luck and remember that you don’t necessarily need friends to go out, I lost all the friends I made in my first semester bc our bond was shallow all we did was hang out we never tried to deepen our friendship, the right friend will come naturally instead of plotting like I did)
I'm really sorry that you feel this way. I'm in my second year of university, I don't know about you but fresher "friends" or acquaintances never last long anyways. I only found my friends because I was in a social science course with likeminded people and because I went to society events of my own interests. Have u been to any socs? Or events of your own interests? I also want to say that your one friend is very valuable and you dont necessarily need plenty because quality over quantity is important. I wish u the best <3