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Should i intervene????
My sister is HELLA protective over my niece. For context, she is like 15 or 16. They don't let her go anywhere by herself. She has had no outings or hang-outs with her friends in her life (idk if she ever sneaked out). She is not allowed to go to any friend's birthdays and no friend is invited over at her birthdays. In conclusion- 0 outings except for with family. Oh and did i mention that they drop her off and pick her up from sch too which is not very far?
For more context- I accidently read her diary (IK ITS VERY WRONG I AM SO SORRY MY BABY BUT AUNT COULDN'T STOP HERSELF) and it make my heart sink. She does not like it at all. I did some research after that and found out all the info in the above para. As an Aunt i am kinda worried for her.
How would this affect her once she gets her freedom? Is it really serious or just a teenage thing? Should i intervene??
Yeah well this is going to sound a bit unexpected but I would be a hell of a helicopter parent because of all all the sa and molestation stories I've heard throughout all my life and because of what I've been through myself, I'd let her go to those birthday parties. I just be watching her like a hawk. I would never approve of the sneaking out, I co...... 1 reply
Yeah and the outcomes are negative. Doing that to your child will make them very vulnerable and or too dependant to become independent, basically they won't know anything about the real world if that keeps happening. 16yo is an age where someone starts to make their own decisions cus that's the age of someone soon to go to college. Dropping them at...... reply
Honestly, I think u should. Like even noo birthday parties??? I understand being strict about sleepovers and such, but I feel like not even allowing her to go to birthday parties is insane... Respectfully ofc. reply
I think you really should talk to your sister. kids that have that kind of helicopter parents tends to Learn to be good liars, most of the time won't fully trust or like the parent and have little to no friends to have a good childhood memory with. I'm not saying to let her do or go whatever she wants, but let her have a bit of fun at times with ot...... reply
As a woman and an older sister. I understa d being incredibly protective of children bc of everything that's going on rn. You can never know who you can trust, and I can understand why her parents may be strict. But I also think it's excessive. Not having friends over nor getting to hang out with them? They're teens, they need a little bit of freed...... reply
I just want to say, I’ve been in this type of situation before. If you want to intervene you better be committed. This isn’t going to be easy like let’s talk about this over tea type of situation, especially if it’s a helicopter parent as intense as you’re describing. If you’re going to be the person who steps up to say something you be...... reply
So this is just my opinion, its definitely not good for her to be this distant(i dont know if she has an illness or something else that would require her to be around them but it doesnt sound like it) Firstly its ofcourse not good for her social life, it will also not be good for her mental heath if she wants to do different things but is like "cau...... 1 reply
