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Opinions on this “gay men fetish”
So now I’m seeing that a few people are fetishizing gay men now. I didn’t even know this was a thing yet until I started to see questions talking about this situation. So, this is just my opinion, so you shouldn’t get into a fight with me trying to prove me your opinion is better, but I believe fetishizing gay men for being gay is awful. I can’t explain it well, but I really dislike it.
And I hate it when those types of people pull out the “I like BL/Yaoi” because that doesn’t even prove anything. Gay men should be seen as people, not as men being seen as gay. This type of logic is, excuse me for my language, but it’s fucked up. Just by using the “I like BL/Yaoi” card, it proves that you might possibly fetishize gay men. And if you do, why?!
Gay men are people, not tools. Heck, straight people are getting hated on for basically just being straight, like what’s wrong with you all!? Accept someone for being themselves, not how they are seen on some sort of manga/Manhwa or whatever. That’s stereotyping people. Just like how now people are starting to stereotype fujoshi’s/fudanshi’s or anyone in general for liking Yaoi/BL.
Anyways, that’s all I’m saying. Don’t wanna drag this on for too long or else this will get boring.
i think there’s a fine line in fetishizing m|m and gay ppl and normalizing m|m relationship. honestly, as a fujoshi i don’t think liking yaoi is a bad thing but it gets bad when ppl cross a boundary and start a whole yaoi/gay cult. but most ppl just perceive ppl who read yaoi as “fetishizing gay men” which makes it really hard for yaoi to g...... 1 reply
Totally agree. This is objectifying gay men, and isn't healthy. This reminds me of the early 2000's when it was completely normal to fetishize lesbian women, and was even encouraged. I remember my cousin (being around 6 at the time) coming up to me and telling me he wanted to date a lesbian woman because then he'd get 2 women instead of 1. But now ...... 2 reply
I’d say the whole fetishizing gay men is a think I’ve seen a lot on the internet about people talking about it but I’ve honestly never seenit in real life. I think the difference is how much lgbtq représentation you get in your life. I mean if you get enough lgbtq representation irl then well you have a solid wall against what’s fiction an...... 1 reply
I completely agree with you. It is not alright to fetishized gay men (or women for that matter). Also, if anyone would like to add to the discussion related to what I have stated in this post, please let me know! I'd love to hear your opinion.
Also, as a forewarning, while I am writing about the history of BL in Japan, please do not turn around an...... 1 reply
I understand what you are saying and it is a serious concern considering how fetishizing gay people (gays, lesbians and others alike) is gaining popularity which is further reflected in literary works and on celluloid. I noticed this for the first time while watching Thai BL and Thai BL novels. A person's sexuality is made an integral part of their...... reply
Agree, everyday more and more people are fetishizing gay men, it's disrespectful and disgusting.
I don't even understand why people would fetishize someone just because of their sexual preference, it's really messed up, some people are acting like gay men are a extinct species that they should all keep observing. Fujoshis these days are very toxic...... reply
Those that just say "I like BL/ yaoi," don't need to prove anything. Unless, they bring those views outside and treat real people as objects, that is truly their business, regardless of how anyone feels.
Of course gay men are people, but saying that those that like BL fetishize gay men, is a stereotype by itself. Of course they are young, disresp...... 2 reply
I also read Yaoi/Manhwuas, but I know my limit. Some people don't and mix real life with their fantasies. Which is pretty disgusting. And if you do have a gay men fetish please keep it to yourself. Go to a porn site and jack off. But don't fetishize people just trying to live their life. Don't comment stuff that can misinterpreted or say shit to th...... 1 reply
it's disgusting. why would you get turned on by the existence of gay men. let them exist bruh. reading BL is fine as long you dont try to act up in their business or get turned on by them. periodt. reply
