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Why do parents reward their children only when they are good?
I know I am quite childish....teen rant ahead. Please ignore it you don't like this type of stuff So basically in my country I am in 12th grade right now and I have my entrance exams next year. In 10th I was kinda like a topper and scored high marks. Many of my friends used to talk about how there parents would scold them for their marks and stuff and I never really understood them, I always told them how our parents love us and want our future to be good and my parents had always told me that marks don't define a person and I could be whatever I want. They gave me a huge cake after my 10th final exams. I love science so I chose that stream and 11th is difficult so my grades dropped a bit (borderline B)...my parents asked me everyday if I didn't feel like studying anymore and that I should study more. I could have told them that 11th was a bit tougher and I was getting acquainted with it but the image I had of them just shattered...I felt like they didn't love me anymore (ik they still do but...) and other stuff had also happened before (maybe some other day). I didn't get any cake that year. I really love science and I feel like I will come to hate it if this continues. With all this corona stuff schools have closed and I feel really bad at home. I don't know what to do. I just wanted to rant somewhere so...sorry if this was too long Do share your experiences and if there are any parents on this site please correct me if you think that I am wrong.
god, the answers here are toxic already. don’t be rude if you can’t understand OP’s issue??
honestly, i have the same problem in a way??
i grew up w/ two prodigies for brothers so i always had such a pressure to be great like them. unfortunately, i couldn’t reach most of their expectations so i was barely praised and was regarded as the �...... 2 reply
BRO FOR SOME UNKNOWN REASON I FIND THIS QUESTION HILARIOUS
anyway lets be serious now, so i read this whole thing and i just wanna say if you're going thru a tough time, it'll be for the best to talk it out with your parents, i know majority of us have major emotional trauma that comes from our parents high expectations of us at a young age, but a...... 1 reply
did you guys even fucking read what they said or did you just look at the title and start tapping away at your keyboard. obviously OP could have worded the title better, but what they're talking about in the paragraph is more than that. if you're not going to read the full post, don't comment cause you look dumb :). this is MANGAGO, all you do on h...... 1 reply
First off. Not all parents love their children, their children could be doctors, could find a new bug species and their parents would still not love them.
For the title. It's better if parents encourage good behaviour this way, rather than beating the sh*t otta you if you aren't good. The latter could give someone serious trauma that could affec...... 1 reply
Ah, I get ya. Chin up buddy, some parents are just like that, mine inclusive. I had good grades but they turned medicore for a while & my mom tends to ask me 24/7 about my studies - literally asked me at 7am if I started studying already, even my dad got pissed at that & told her to shut up for once lmao. Honestly it can get annoying really fast so...... reply
bro, I remember having these type of long-ass essays during my teen angst drama period and its fooking cringe. props to OP for having the guts to vent to more than a hundred strangers about it ╮(￣▽￣)╭ reply
Let me guess you are from India right?
I took science by mistake and still suffering from it. Till 10 grade I was a topper too and my parents always said that grades Don't define who you are (basically everything you just said). MY SITUATION WAS AND IS THE SAME AS URS!!!
But now they really scold me etc etc (you can pretty much Guess it)
YOU ARE N...... 3 reply
you must be wondering why your parents seems changed and you feel like they didn't love you as much as before bcs your grade is fall. i think it's bcs they had their expectation of you, it can be bad and good. your parents do care for you and want the best for you so study is like a good option, but it can be bad bcs they think of you as someone wh...... 1 reply
You can’t expect your parents to reward you if you’re bad, do you?? “Yeah let us celebrate our child failing that’ll teach them a lesson!”
Just talk it out with them and tell them things are harder now 2 reply
my solution to every problem :
we're all going to die in the end
YOU are going to die
THEY are going to die
I am going to die
and i know this sounds pretty toxic and depressing, but no one will remember in some centuries, nothing will matter.
so yk what? just enjoy yourself, do whatever you want, don't stress on the little decisions, and this is...... 1 reply
