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Would you be friends with someone you rejected?
About two weeks ago this guy at uni confessed to me. I'm aroace and I barely know him so I was caught of guard but I just told him that I'm not interested and he seemed to understand. We did not have any classes for the rest of the week so I didn't meet him again until last Tuesday were I tried acting normal despite feeling akward since I don't think he did anything wrong. On Wednesday I actually got kind of mad since he asked me to talk about what had happened. I didn't find anything wrong in discussing it but he kept analysing the way I behaved on Tuesday, asking me about things I didn't even do due to feeling uncomfortable. I explained that I always do the things he mentioned and thought that since he obviously also felt uncomfortable I should just rip the bandaid and tell him that I feel akward after what happened. He kept repeating himself, saying stuff I had already explained so I just kept telling him that the situation is akward. I had told him that four times before he asked to keep hanging out as friends and do a project together. I told him that I don't mind simply talking a bit while at uni and tried avoiding agreeing to the project since I don't have a partner but do not feel comfortable doing it with him. That only led to him pressuring me to answer. I should mention that I did not see him as a friend even before everything that happened. It's Monday again and he sat in a different seat further away from me. I appreciate the fact that he probably realised how uncomfortable I feel hanging out alone with him but I can't help but feel a bit guilty. I was trying to be nice but I wonder if I should have just straight up said that I don't want to be friends
Something similar happened to me and long story short it did not go well. It's better to be honest and put yourself first rather than forcing yourself to be friends with someone you're clearly uncomfortable with (He's also pushing some boundaries so that's clearly a no go). reply
He seems to be waiting for chance or opportunity that you’ll change your mind one day.
Better tell him honestly that you’re not interested even in staying as friends . reply
By analyzing your behaviour in front of you he wants to show that he knows what you do and your behaviour. He wants you to know that he’s in control sorta and knows everything about the way you act. It’s to reassure himself and further elevate him self. Reject him. He is just a common egotistical male who can’t accept rejection and wants to p...... reply