I don't know what to do
Okay, so I live in a religious snd strict household, and there are many taboos not only in our house, but in our entire culture; such as homosexuality and cross dressing. A few years ago, I was subjected to the LGBTQ+ community, and I honestly felt like I belonged to that community myself, it's true I didn't come out and I don't plan to, because as I said, my family is very strict. I've been inside the closet for 3 years now, and honestly I don't really mind it. Until I noticed my little brother had feminine tendencies to him. At first, I tried to brush them off, but the more I did, the more they became even clearer. He likes to wear makeup, wear my clothes, and act sometimes like girls. I know it doesn't ultimately make him gay, I think he just wants to feel pretty! The reason I'm saying this is that my parents -especially my dad- feel rather repulsed by these acts sometimes, sure they try to dodge them by cracking jokes about them, but deep inside, they just hare it. As for myself, I'm ready to support my little brother however I see necessary, whether he's gay or not, but I'm really scared of what my parents would do.
Sorry for taking much of your time, and thanks for reading.
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Sounds like there's a communication issue. Not with your parents but with your brother. If you're both in the same boat why not come together? You just some probing with affirmations that you will always be on his side. (Don't out yourself to him and I'm not asking you to out himself as well) just let him know that you're always there regardless of how his family view him. That's all you need in an environment of toxicity. It will mean the world to people who suffering in silence. Just treat him like how you'd treat your younger self who was scared and alone.
He's still 13 and I don't want to mistake his tendencies for something else, you get me? When he's old anspd confident enough to come out to me if he's actually gay, I will support him.
stay strong and support each other <3
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The only thing you can really do in situations like this is make clear plans to become financially independent in the future. Then you can help your brother get out. Distance should make dealing with your parents easier and he can decide what level of contact he wants.
If you think your brother is in immediate danger, like your parents might physically incapacitate him, look for youth lgbtq services and shelters. There are websites for people in abused situations to make escape plans also. Just be sure to clear your Internet history and be careful not to let your parents catch on.
I'll be in college in two months and will start working
Good luck!
Something to also keep in mind is that your sibling might also be exploring their gender. So you might actually have a sister or otherwise. If you're not familiar with trans stuff, might be a good time to learn up on it when you're in college.
ofc, though, everything is speculation until your brother says one way or another. It's great that you're being a supportive sibling. Make sure to take care of yourself too
I will try my best to support my siblings as much as I could, thanks for your valuable advice.