It's crazy to me that ppl will allow Loli but hate on literally bl/gl

I find it stupid when ppl get mad at someone headcanoning a character being gay or trans or what, and acting like those people are ruining the fandom but then go joke about lolis or make memes out of them. Prime example is literally that one dance, that series is from a loli fetish series and fetishized a rape whistle. Like thinking about it a lot of anime memes is literally just underaged girls being sexualised, yet they draw the line at gay ships?? At people changing skin tone too?? Cause wtf. "don't put lgbtq in our anime!" And that guy had a rent a gf pfp.