i habitually fantasise about having 2 bodies that i can switch between at a whim, one female & the other male. i'll tell people i want to be a boy with a boyfriend or a girl with a girlfriend and they laugh and call me autistic (probably not wrong but still). i want kids but in a fatherly way not motherly way & like being called the "dad friend" despite being a woman. i really like being perceived as masculine and a "tomboy", i like when people auto-assume im gay or queer in some way despite having a pretty feminine appearance, i hate the part of me that wants to be perceived as a man because i know it's probably rooted in some deep internal misogyny. do i actually like being a woman or do i just like the attention from being mildly attractive? i hate my body when i dress femininely because im quite blocky and have 0 curves but i like my body when i dress masculinely (minus having boobs i wish i could detach them temporarily per outfit). i've spent the last 3 years growing out a v short pixie cut (turned undercut) and my hair is down to the middle of my back now but i contemplate shaving it all off and just buying wigs when i want long hair at least twice a week. i want someone else to tell me who i am because i can't decide.
For me? Only during my period bc fuck mood swings and cramps.
I’d just start out with reversible things like trying masc clothing and maybe even voice masculinization training, basically just leaning into the butchy/tomboy aesthetic. I only say this because i know a couple people (not the majority!) who jumped into hrt or top surgery too fast, only to find out they didn’t hate their old body as much as they thought they did.
if it doesn’t feel more comfortable than your current fem state then you can always go back with no effort. If it does feel less stressful and more comfortable, then you can keep it tomboy or go further while having more confidence that it’s what you want.
It’d probably be way more helpful for someone who IS genderqueer or tomboyish to give advice tho since I’m a girly girl and I’m only able to say what others have told me. Anyway, happy pride~
Hey you can be genderfluid. But you don't have to you know just fit a description such as a gender. I honestly wish to confuse people with my gender or just throw way the label of being a girl whatever people that I should do as a girl or how I sometimes behave like a guy.
But from my side it's more like I want to treated like a human rather than someone being treated according to their gender.
So honestly go wild with it. Don't decide anything about it. Life is too short for that shit.
Just do whatever you like. Don't hate yourself for things that aren't your fault. Life is damn to short to give a shit on how you should be. If you like masculine clothing then wear them don't hate yourself for wanting to be perceived as a man sometimes and also don't hate yourself for your body you didn't even get to choose it.
nd also, don't be afraid to pick up a label and change it once it no longer fits you. Our identities ain't fixed, labels are just things that help us give a name to whatever we relate to
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For me? Only during my period bc fuck mood swings and cramps.
I’d just start out with reversible things like trying masc clothing and maybe even voice masculinization training, basically just leaning into the butchy/tomboy aesthetic. I only say this because i know a couple people (not the majority!) who jumped into hrt or top surgery too fast, only to find out they didn’t hate their old body as much as they thought they did.
if it doesn’t feel more comfortable than your current fem state then you can always go back with no effort. If it does feel less stressful and more comfortable, then you can keep it tomboy or go further while having more confidence that it’s what you want.
It’d probably be way more helpful for someone who IS genderqueer or tomboyish to give advice tho since I’m a girly girl and I’m only able to say what others have told me. Anyway, happy pride~
Hey you can be genderfluid. But you don't have to you know just fit a description such as a gender. I honestly wish to confuse people with my gender or just throw way the label of being a girl whatever people that I should do as a girl or how I sometimes behave like a guy.
But from my side it's more like I want to treated like a human rather than someone being treated according to their gender.
So honestly go wild with it. Don't decide anything about it. Life is too short for that shit.
Just do whatever you like. Don't hate yourself for things that aren't your fault. Life is damn to short to give a shit on how you should be. If you like masculine clothing then wear them don't hate yourself for wanting to be perceived as a man sometimes and also don't hate yourself for your body you didn't even get to choose it.
You could be gender fluid dawg
nd also, don't be afraid to pick up a label and change it once it no longer fits you. Our identities ain't fixed, labels are just things that help us give a name to whatever we relate to