How old are you when you got groomed?
At my fully grown adult, I can't believe I got groomed. I was 24 when I got groomed. Honestly, it's my fault for not seeing the signs faster.
I thought when he helped me, I thought something finally looking up for once in my life. Then one day, it ended up turning to be for worse. I got hit by reality check. I don't wanna go to detail, I don't wanna trigger mine specifically.
But how did it affect you? How did u overcome it?
Mine, when I experienced. I felt like I was paralyzed, denial is still there. I still felt like it didn't happen and it was just in my head.
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It started when I was like 13. The seed was planted. I didn’t realize til over 15 years later that’s when it started. I didnt realize I had been groomed til I was no longer in contact with that person. When I took a step back and realized all the things they did to me. I was almost 30 when I realized that. I had married into this person’s family and I thought they were my best friend. When I finally looked at the whole picture, I realized they were a predator. It made me sick to my stomach. This person was around my kids! I’m very protective of my kids and that person will never be around them ever again. I think time made me overcome it. They are still not allowed in my life, but what they did doesn’t hurt as much. I thought it was in my head too. But, predators are good at manipulation. It started at 13 and sprinkled through my teens and twenties.
Pray to god that karma will hit him hard. It took a whole for me to understand it too.
He was my boss so I was like passive because I didn't wanna risk losing my job. It was my first time working, and it it took a while for me to get a job in this economy. Job marketplace is ass rn. So when I got hired and he helped me all the way to the company. I was livid. I had so many nice things to say, I found my friends and work close to my house. Then just suddenly, it just became different. I was being isolated a lot, all my friends are always on different section and he kept telling me I was a problem. I don't wanna go to detail but I just know it's not something I want to recall. He's like memorized all my behavior, tried to guess what I'll do next, gets in my head a lot. But I just couldn't do it, I was becoming someone I was not since day one and I had to leave, it didn't matter to me if i was terminated and I had no back up. I just want to leave before I do something entirely reckless. I'd like to think I was being dramatic. But it was hard. It was hard. I ended up leaving to focus on my mental health. I left the company. Until I'm fully back myself again I realized i was getting groomed.
No one deserved to go through that. No one. Being groomed at young age damages your mind, so u were a strong person to handle that
For the people who don't know how to answer let me help. If your parents had bad ideology and taught you the same ways of thinking, you were groomed. If you were forced to go to church as a kid, you were groomed. If you were "disciplined" with a belt, shoe, cord, stick, etc. and was told they did it out of love, you were groomed too. And much much more.