Okay so like I shooted my shot a d replied to a guy's story asking him about this complex math thing he posted about cuz he was learning it. Went well, said he would love to teach me about math shit and we were talking a lot and sending reels.... A few weeks in and his texting is slow so I made a joke about him losing his phone everytime I text cuz he answered like a few hours later... He said cuz he don't be on his phone which is probably true because he only likes math and music (doesn't watch any Media like movies or shows).... But then he wasn't responding so I asked if he didn't want me messaging him and he texted that he was just busy cause he was reading an math book thing..... But now he's not responding like at all..... I think I've been ghosted, and this is like my first time trying to talk to someone I'm interested in..... Maybe I was too clingy or needy? Like bro I'm 18, no dating experience at all and not even a first kiss..... I'm struggling.... It's hard for a girl
Let's shift the focus from your actions onto his instead. You're not pushy or clingy because it's natural to want to connect with someone you are interested in (especially if they initially reciprocated). However, if you have identified that it's a one-way pull, and you are often left high and dry without any recourse, I think it's good to rethink whether this kind of imbalance is truly what you want.
No one likes the feeling of being left on read or ignored. Think about the emotional feedback you seek from continuing this. 1. do you wish to be validated through a response, or 2. do you want valuable connection with this person. Again, feeling 1 is totally normal, but if you are feeling 2.... trust me, if a guy wanted to, he would. That gut feeling of yours may be right (he's not responding how you'd like him to, making excuses instead of replying) but that's ok. Don't feel the need to rush into anything! You're only 18 and you've done the brave thing (and often most daunting step of the entire process) of messaging him first. Up to you on whether you continue, but I'd say just take the win of having initiated first and save yourself from wasting time on someone who doesn't appreciate your output. Hope you'll meet someone who ends up appreciating your time and effort! Good luck (づ￣ ³￣)づ
Guys preferred when they do the first move. He must’ve realised you liked him so he started ghosting you since he’s not into you. Lol I remember how I’m like you in the past, it doesn’t bothered me, If they can do it why can’t we as women? Anyway, I hope you’ll get over him..
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Let's shift the focus from your actions onto his instead. You're not pushy or clingy because it's natural to want to connect with someone you are interested in (especially if they initially reciprocated). However, if you have identified that it's a one-way pull, and you are often left high and dry without any recourse, I think it's good to rethink whether this kind of imbalance is truly what you want.
No one likes the feeling of being left on read or ignored. Think about the emotional feedback you seek from continuing this. 1. do you wish to be validated through a response, or 2. do you want valuable connection with this person. Again, feeling 1 is totally normal, but if you are feeling 2.... trust me, if a guy wanted to, he would. That gut feeling of yours may be right (he's not responding how you'd like him to, making excuses instead of replying) but that's ok. Don't feel the need to rush into anything! You're only 18 and you've done the brave thing (and often most daunting step of the entire process) of messaging him first. Up to you on whether you continue, but I'd say just take the win of having initiated first and save yourself from wasting time on someone who doesn't appreciate your output. Hope you'll meet someone who ends up appreciating your time and effort! Good luck (づ￣ ³￣)づ
Guys preferred when they do the first move. He must’ve realised you liked him so he started ghosting you since he’s not into you. Lol I remember how I’m like you in the past, it doesn’t bothered me, If they can do it why can’t we as women? Anyway, I hope you’ll get over him..