One thing that's always confused me is watching my friend keep going back to guys who treat her badly. We’re still young, and I’ve never really understood the appeal of dating, but from my perspective, some of the choices she makes are hard to understand.
She dated a guy who was friends with her ex, the same ex who had cheated on her. The first time she dated this new guy, he ended up ghosting her. After everything that happened, I told her I didn't think getting back together with him was a good idea. But she decided to give him another chance anyway.
The second time around, the exact same thing happened, he ghosted her again. What made the situation even stranger was that one of her friends had been talking to him both before and after their relationship. I don't know for sure what happened behind the scenes, but it definitely made me question whether he was being honest with her.
The most frustrating part is that this isn't the first time she's gotten involved with someone who treated her poorly. It feels like she keeps choosing guys who don't respect her or value her. As her friend, it's difficult to watch because I want better for her, but at the end of the day, she makes her own decisions. No matter how much advice I give, she usually ends up doing what she wants anyway.
Looking back, this pattern has been around for years. Even back in middle school, she had already dated 5 different guys. Maybe she's looking for something I just don't understand, but it can be frustrating to watch someone keep getting hurt by people who show the same red flags over and over again.
Not friends, but a cousin and a sibling of mine are like that This type of people get stuck in a cycle and delude themselves into staying in those situations, when they come to their love ones with it they know what you're gonna say but somehow still hope you feed into their delusion. And since they're so delusional they dont visualize the sheer amount of times they do it Personality i refuse to lose energy on them, I tell them they can share whatever but not to expect a response to "what would you do if you were me" bc I would've been out the door 2 years ago Ive stuck myself in situations to get them out and they still went back anyways. It annoys me bc I feel like ive definitely become desensitized to their issues, now if I help them is indirectly so I dont end in the crossfire
Yeah it pains me to say this but sometimes I just stop caring about my friends relationship problems, of course I’ll always be there for her and try my best to give her advice but unfortunately they tend to be stubborn and not listen. I just hope everyone in a relationship like that can realize it’s not love and that they’re being treated as a doormat, and eventually I hope they finally make the decision to leave.
It used to frustrate me too when I saw my friends going back to the same guys who would hurt them over and over again. Unfortunately, nothing you do or say can make them stop going back until they themselves are ready to stop. All you can do is stay by their side, support them, and remind them that you love them.
Chin up though! Some people do make it out ok. One of my friends who was in a series of horrific abusive relationships is getting married next year to an amazing man who loves and cherishes her just as much as we, her closest friends, do! We have shed so many tears together throughout the years and I am beyond happy for her! I hope your friend finds her way out too.
You worded this so well, though my friend makes bad decisions I will always support her and be there for her. And I’m extremely happy to hear your friend made it out of that terrible situation, you are a wonderful friend and I’m sure she’s very appreciative towards you. (▰˘◡˘▰)
Same with my friends, sister every woman in my life, it’s embarrassing, and seeing this pattern over again is probably what made me lose interest in relationships, and I feel so bad for my entire gender because look at how foolish and weak women who make these choices make us look.
Yeah honestly I totally lost interest in pursuing romance for myself, after seeing my friends leave their dignity behind for a man who is mid at best always infuriates me. It’s not love at all and I don’t find it romantic in the slightest, it will always give delusional to me. Some people need more self esteem
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Not friends, but a cousin and a sibling of mine are like that
This type of people get stuck in a cycle and delude themselves into staying in those situations, when they come to their love ones with it they know what you're gonna say but somehow still hope you feed into their delusion. And since they're so delusional they dont visualize the sheer amount of times they do it
Personality i refuse to lose energy on them, I tell them they can share whatever but not to expect a response to "what would you do if you were me" bc I would've been out the door 2 years ago
Ive stuck myself in situations to get them out and they still went back anyways. It annoys me bc I feel like ive definitely become desensitized to their issues, now if I help them is indirectly so I dont end in the crossfire
Yeah it pains me to say this but sometimes I just stop caring about my friends relationship problems, of course I’ll always be there for her and try my best to give her advice but unfortunately they tend to be stubborn and not listen. I just hope everyone in a relationship like that can realize it’s not love and that they’re being treated as a doormat, and eventually I hope they finally make the decision to leave.
It used to frustrate me too when I saw my friends going back to the same guys who would hurt them over and over again. Unfortunately, nothing you do or say can make them stop going back until they themselves are ready to stop. All you can do is stay by their side, support them, and remind them that you love them.
Chin up though! Some people do make it out ok. One of my friends who was in a series of horrific abusive relationships is getting married next year to an amazing man who loves and cherishes her just as much as we, her closest friends, do! We have shed so many tears together throughout the years and I am beyond happy for her! I hope your friend finds her way out too.
You worded this so well, though my friend makes bad decisions I will always support her and be there for her. And I’m extremely happy to hear your friend made it out of that terrible situation, you are a wonderful friend and I’m sure she’s very appreciative towards you. (▰˘◡˘▰)
Same with my friends, sister every woman in my life, it’s embarrassing, and seeing this pattern over again is probably what made me lose interest in relationships, and I feel so bad for my entire gender because look at how foolish and weak women who make these choices make us look.
Yeah honestly I totally lost interest in pursuing romance for myself, after seeing my friends leave their dignity behind for a man who is mid at best always infuriates me. It’s not love at all and I don’t find it romantic in the slightest, it will always give delusional to me. Some people need more self esteem