I want to get this off my chest. Im a student worker (im a college student) and I just started my new job. Its going well and I work with a lot of middle-old aged men. Theres a old guy let's call him D, hes old enough to be my GRANDPA. He was quit literally my work grandpa until the other day I came into work with a flowery shirt, a cute professional shirt you would see women wear. I usually always wear a tee shirt to work, but that day I had lunch plans with my female coworker and so I wanted to have a cute top. When he came to my desk, he was talking to me but he would stop a few secs mid way thru his words and his eyes were looking at my chest. I wanted to cry. I put my sweater on and zipped it all the way up. Ever since that day ive just been wearing sweaters and trying to look unkempt. Then, yesterday, the security guard, lets call him E, who works at the front desk (hes also buddies with D). I DREAD having to greet him in the morning and now I know why. He tried to hit on me yesterday. Asking me if I go to the bar, where I live. Mind you hes 10+ yes older. And because he's buddies with D, im scared they're planning something. Im always on alert and im scared going ro work. I work in IT and I've never felt so afraid. It makes me nauseous and it makes me wanna cry when I think about going into work and having to see them.
Asking where you live went too far I think you should report or ask for help Penguin
1. Tell a supervisor 2. Document everything, such as telling your parents, close ppl, write in your diary, etc.(collecting/giving evidence) 3. Ask HR safety plan
Sucky situation. I worked with a "superior" for a couple of years, and I don't think he ever knew what my face looked like. Every interaction, he would exclusively stare at my chest, didn't matter what I was wearing, and he also did the same to every other female in the office. Report the security guard to HR, creepy grandpa will hear about it, and it might make him back off. Also, talk to any female friends in the office, ask for advice and by bringing it up, they will also start keeping an eye on him. This might be useful later if he doesn't stop and having support in the office will help emotionally.
I'm sorry you had to go through that and thank you for your response. I was planning on telling my other female coworkers too cuz i didn't feel safe. And I will reach out to HR.
Retaliation. And because it's hard to get them to take you seriously till something bad happens. sasa
Ive heard of that too. If HR doesn't do anything, their harrassing might get worst. Ugh im scared. Ive only been here a month and its my only source of income.
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Ew thats gross Do you have anyone close to tell? Harassment is not okay
Asking where you live went too far I think you should report or ask for help
1. Tell a supervisor
2. Document everything, such as telling your parents, close ppl, write in your diary, etc.(collecting/giving evidence)
3. Ask HR safety plan
Sucky situation. I worked with a "superior" for a couple of years, and I don't think he ever knew what my face looked like. Every interaction, he would exclusively stare at my chest, didn't matter what I was wearing, and he also did the same to every other female in the office. Report the security guard to HR, creepy grandpa will hear about it, and it might make him back off. Also, talk to any female friends in the office, ask for advice and by bringing it up, they will also start keeping an eye on him. This might be useful later if he doesn't stop and having support in the office will help emotionally.
I'm sorry you had to go through that and thank you for your response. I was planning on telling my other female coworkers too cuz i didn't feel safe. And I will reach out to HR.
That’s terrible, I’d definitely be on guard too with that security guard-
Yea. It's creepy. I don't know what they're thinking but its def bad news. Im just trying to avoid them at all cost until my shift ends
Why not report it to HR, even if nothing is done, you will habe it on record if God forbid you should every need it.
Yea. I was thinking of reporting to HR cuz im not feeling safe. Ive never felt so reluctant to get out the house and go to work.
Retaliation. And because it's hard to get them to take you seriously till something bad happens.
Ive heard of that too. If HR doesn't do anything, their harrassing might get worst. Ugh im scared. Ive only been here a month and its my only source of income.