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How do I reject close friend who had crush on me for 3 years?
There's this guy I've been pretty close friends with for about 8 years (and I also am best buddies with his younger brother but thats irrelevant)
Now about 3 - 4 years ago I noticed he had a crush on me, he started doing me a lot of favours, often asked if I wanted to watch an anime or movie with him, always wanted to do stuff I want to do and a lot of other stuff which got more advanced... In one instance my best bud even said 'He has a crush on you!' to which he got flustered and said 'No I don't!' and I was like in the room trying to play along and be like 'Lol nAh he doesn't-'
The thing is, he's pretty kind and all but I never liked him back that way, I always thought of him as a chill brother more than anything (And I also was gaying for my female best friend-) I very much knew he had a crush on me and so I pretended to be totally oblivious to it because I couldn't bring myself to talk to him about it but at the same time I also felt really guilty for letting him live in that false hope
Fastforward to 2020 and uh he still has a crush on me and tries to make advances which make me feel pretty uncomfy mostly because well... I have a girlfriend now- And I'm not sure how to bring that up to him, especially when I don't want to break his heart because he really is a cool person
Soo what should I do?
(And I know the title might be a bit misleading but Idk a better one oof)
It sucks, but the only way to do this is to sit him down and tell him you don't like him. Of course breaking his heart seems sad :( but there's really no way to not to. If you don't like him back, he needs to know straight from the source. It's better to just tell him directly then if he finds out you have a girlfriend himself.
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Be honest. There’s no way to resolve this without being blunt. Doesn’t mean you have to be rude about it, though. Just say something like “hey maybe I’m just getting the wrong signals but it feels like you’re hitting on me sometimes and it makes me uncomfortable because I don’t see you like that. You’re a good friend and like a brothe...... 1 reply
