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How do I get over this
Genuinely breaks my heart seeing my other friends replace me w another new girl. Not saying that they can't befriend someone new, but just the subtle leaving me out, not talking to me, kicking me out of our gc is heartbreaking.
We've been friends for more or less 4 years now(our friend group) and now that a new girl just transferred to our school they're leaving me out, I'm talking: ignoring me, not including me in group photos/cropping me out, etc.
I'm not saying I don't have any other friends, it's jst that these girls are people I'm so close with, within the span of 4 years they've seen me go through my lowest of lows, and highest of highs, we have our own inside jokes, we sit(or sat?) together during classes, we hang out together, etc.
I also js found out one of the girls called me "insensitive" and an "invalidater"(idek if that's an actual word) just cause I disagreed w her when she said that it's okay for a 14yr old to date someone 4 years older than them cuz it's "just" a four year gap. I still love her nonetheless.
I've tried talking to them as group and even individually but they'd either ignore me or avoid the question to talk to other people. I haven't done anything wrong to them, nor to the new girl, in fact I've been so welcoming to the new girl, introducing her to everyone and making sure everyone doesn't get the wrong idea abt her(cuz my school likes to spread false rumors about new kids for sum reason?)
Am I being toxic or paranoid? I just want our old friendship back what should I do? Help a minor out ╥﹏╥
Tbh, I feel like you should quit your friend group, if they don't value you and your friendship with them or ignoring and even making you feel left out then it's better to leave that group instead of staying with them any longer. avoid those girls who call you insensitive and other things towards you. just focus on yourself and try to make new frie...... reply
One you are not paranoid or toxic, you are communicating your concerns if that is not heard then leave, yes it might hurt as hell but it's better than staying in a toxic friendship just for the sake of "4 years friendship". It's also clear she never valued your as a friend. Second you are all miniors and you were right to disagree with her on that ...... reply
Sometimes it's better to let go even if you don't want to, even if it's someone you love. I would advice you to distance yourself from people who don't want you cause i believe love and respect goes both ways. reply
I agree with the other posters on here. If your friends are phasing you out, then take the good memories while they lasted, but get out of that friendship. If making a clean break is tough, just start phasing them out of your life as well. Stop telling them things that are going on with you (ik it'll feel like you NEED to tell them, but that feelin...... reply
