lowkey just gonna rant but it’s fine. i hope ppl can somehow relate to what im gonna share because im really lost.
i feel like im stuck in the past, i’ve graduated high school two years ago, and i see everyone moving forward, going to Japan, Malaysia, getting engaged, being financially stable and even graduating college. yet i’m just *there*. i feel behind in everything.
i try to convince myself that no it’s okay i have all the time in the world, by watching these motivations slides on tiktok that say « if you feel like you’re behind, look at how much you’ve accomplished », but the thing is, i’ve done nothing at all. what am i supposed to be proud of????
im 19 and im a loser, literally. when i was 15 i used to think that these grown ass men still living at their parents’ house, spending all their day on video games, were such losers, BUT IVE BECOME THEM . everyday i waste my life by scrolling on tiktok watching ppl’s lives, i bedrot and do absolutely nothing, this is wild, im wasting my life.
i feel so sad knowing that i used to think that i was wasting my teenage years even when i was only 15. if i were to die right this instant, i know ill regret my entire life. yet i still, do nothing. i’m so behind in life that it’s making me lose my sanity i don’t know what to do and im scared that ill waste my youth this way.
Even people who are older or already have families often don’t have the financial means or freedom to travel... I think everyone feels, to some extent, like they haven’t accomplished anything or are behind. That feeling sucks, but it’s normal , and what you see on social media is either people who make a living from it or just brief highlights from people’s lives. Everyone lives their life at their own pace and in their own way, and that’s okay… just try to better yourself, but don’t be too hard on yourself (I know it's hard) and don’t compare yourself to others..their circumstances are completely different from yours…19 is still really young, your life has basically just begun.
well i was just taking this travel thing as an example, but like for instance, my bestie has a car, a boyfriend, a job and all that.. i just feel extra jealous bc im stuck behind not doing anything.
but at the same time, everyone feels like this in their 20s, running out of time constantly. ppl figure their life out in their 30s, so yes it’s true my life has just begun, but i feel like if i do get up now, then one day ill wake up in my mid 20s and ill be filled with regrets.
BUT LIKE, overthinking and being so anxious like this wont get me anywhere. omg put me in a coma thats it
well i was just taking this travel thing as an example, but like for instance, my bestie has a car, a boyfriend, a job and all that.. i just feel extra jealous bc im stuck behind not doing anything. but at the ... seabi
To be honest, I have similar thoughts almost every day, but you can't let them consume you... it's hard, though
Hey, like I'm in the same situation as you, I'm struggling a lot with procrastination and shit. I mean everyone's cracking exams here I'm just drifting away like idk it sucks. Like i get everyone is accomplishing lots of stuff and all but I think accomplishments are those things that make YOU happy and proud of yourself, not because others are doing but because you are. Like i won a literature fest, it was not a big deal to anyone in my life but i counted it as an accomplishment because I feel more confident in myself. Now obviously I'm gonna say shit like just get up, or you have to believe in yourself but I am gonna say you don't have to fix your life in one like it's not fucking possible (believe me I tried) but I just try a little each day. You can do too, not for others but yourself or your past self because you deserve the best and the best only comes by trying a little more each day.
omg no way u won smth like that?? that must’ve been so fun, hell yeah i’m proud of u too !! im glad ( and sad ) that someone can relate to my rant lol.
i always think either black or white, everything or nothing. and i think that’s why i struggle so much to accept that im moving at my own pace, or to just do anything. well, i do it to get the fuck up and do smth lol. but it’s really annoying and i’m disappointed in myself because once again, i don’t put in the effort. i always try to find an excuse to not do this or that, instead of trying something.
honestly, id be fine with moving slowly and taking small steps, doing at least one productive thing every day, but thats not the case. i really just, don’t do anything. trying something means stepping out of my comfort zone, i fear change so much yet i crave it even more. and if i keep not trying, one day ill just be filled with regrets. ok sorry i ranted too much im cringing at myself but thanks for ur response, it helped me a lot
omg no way u won smth like that?? that must’ve been so fun, hell yeah i’m proud of u too !! im glad ( and sad ) that someone can relate to my rant lol. i always think either black or white, everything or n... seabi
Tbh I think your thinking is definitely holding you back. Like believe me ik it's tough to not get into the mindset of all or nothing because of failures, but I don't think every failure is so bad I mean not every action has to be productive! You can just live like a normal human being, you don't have to achieve shit all the time or get out of your comfort zone. Like someone just doesn't push you out of the comfort zone, you just crawl and teeter and eventually cross it without knowing. Like i didn't know how to talk to people like at all, I was a fucking wimp but then someone talked to me, i bored them and pissed them off, i talked to someone but fucked it up. So i fucked up so many times that eventually I started to not...fuck up. And yk for the excuses I use a trick, it's called petty jealousy, like why the heck can that dude be so social than me even though I'm prettier than him??? Like yeah stupid but sometimes it works like i sometimes put bets on others and myself like I'll pay you this much if i don't do this or that and sometimes it works lol. So you just gotta throw all that you think know you about yourself and just jump jump until you land on your feet. Well I'm still falling and failing but I'm doing this all because I want physical copies of all my fav manhwas on my shelf, god knows that expensive. (Holy shit sorry for the long response)
Tbh I think your thinking is definitely holding you back. Like believe me ik it's tough to not get into the mindset of all or nothing because of failures, but I don't think every failure is so bad I mean not ev... JelloBello
lmao ure so relatable . yeah omg i saw a video abt this the other day, that not everything as to be productive. living is enough. and yeah i also feel like my mindset is holding me back, so i definitely should do something about it.. i think it’s a bit scary that i’ve become so incredibly stressed that i even compare myself to others when i wanna buy clothes. i genuinely get anxious and i have a panic attack bc i wont look good enough like them etc. like bitch stop comparing it won’t get u ANYWHERE .
honestly me too i want to buy so much stuff manga related but in order to do that.. we gotta give it alll. bought litc merch the other day and tears went down my cheeks as i entered my credit card number.
ANYWAY. tysm for ur advices. i really gotta stop overthinking so much and start at least trying anything. and plus, why tf am i comparing myself to ppl on social media when it’s all fake, i gotta do better
lmao ure so relatable . yeah omg i saw a video abt this the other day, that not everything as to be productive. living is enough. and yeah i also feel like my mindset is holding me back, so i definitely should ... seabi
FUCK YEAH WE CAN BE RICH FUCK SOCIETY ahem but you're welcome!!! Let's hope both you and I can do better!! All the best!!!
Seabi you're 19 it's normal it's not way weird the people you see traveling all over the world have families that help them financially most people our age are either just joining the work force or still studying, the average 19/20 year old even if they were working can't afford a plane to Japan. And anyway what you see in social media isnt the journey of someone's hard work to have the money to travel just the destination, if you want to travel try with countries near you i think you can get a train from France to most of Europe, you can even try traveling to other cities in your country
i know and that’s the thing . they’re probably all prioritizing going on trips instead of saving money, yet i feel so jealous and sad bc im still not doing anything.
yes im 19 but its already so old. i’m saying like, some people are our age and still do something of their day. even going outside feel productive to me, nobody just stay in bed without doing anything for years, this is ridiculous. i wish i could say that i have accomplished something but i haven’t and that’s the thing that i can’t accept. my brain is turning mushy bc all i do is scroll omg .
even seeing my best friend having a job and doing adult things is amazing to me. a 19 yo should be going forward in life like this. having a job is enough ( at least for me ) to not feel like you’re behind. you still do smth of ur day.
i know and that’s the thing . they’re probably all prioritizing going on trips instead of saving money, yet i feel so jealous and sad bc im still not doing anything. yes im 19 but its already so old. i’m ... seabi
I'm in a similar situation probably worse, I'm 20 but i dropped out during middle school due to severe social anxiety and depression so i don't even have a middle school diploma to start working, my sister started working and she always on trips and I'm low-key jealous af but I'm at a point in my life where i realized everyone has their pace, 19 and 20 may seem big but honestly our life just started we are barely adults and it's okay for us to take our own time taking our first adult steps. You are most likely suffering from depression too so don't beat yourself up, try small if you want to get out of the funk, I didn't got out for years (agoraphobia) and i just recently restarted i mostly got to the fruit marked, my therapist and to get ice cream. So you can try that, small steps ^^
I'm in a similar situation probably worse, I'm 20 but i dropped out during middle school due to severe social anxiety and depression so i don't even have a middle school diploma to start working, my sister star... GLORIOUSKINGKABRU
i aspire to be like u sm you don’t even know, im being so for real. i’m really proud and amazed by you accomplishing something so big as going out and doing things that make you happy!
i aspire to be like u sm you don’t even know, im being so for real. i’m really proud and amazed by you accomplishing something so big as going out and doing things that make you happy! seabi
I do hope you can soon start recovery as well I'm honestly just lucky because I get to go to therapy for free because my therapist is friends with my mom therapy honestly should be more affordable it's such a great help
like wym if i fail my exams ill be a first year student for the 3rd year in a row ? and my bestie is going to graduate, i feel like such a loser for not even putting in the effort. whenever someone wants to help me by gifting me money or even when my bsf wanna help me, i feel so bad because im the problem, im the one who doesn’t have a job and can’t do anything. i feel like such a child. even rn what am i doing with my life ranting abt my life on a damn manga site cuz i have no friends, this is hella ridiculous.
Honestly can't give you a solution all i can say the more you compare yourself to others the more you'll procrastinate because you'll feel like it's already too late when it's not
Honestly can't give you a solution all i can say the more you compare yourself to others the more you'll procrastinate because you'll feel like it's already too late when it's not GLORIOUSKINGKABRU
I KNOW OMG IM PISSING MYSELF OFF my brain is so stupid, i know i shouldn’t compare and that it doesn’t matter anyway because everyone moves at their own pace, but i js feel so behind and there’s absolutely no solution except to try and do something. it’s just my anxiety talking and it’s making me lose my mind. no one has figured out anything at this age
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Even people who are older or already have families often don’t have the financial means or freedom to travel... I think everyone feels, to some extent, like they haven’t accomplished anything or are behind. That feeling sucks, but it’s normal , and what you see on social media is either people who make a living from it or just brief highlights from people’s lives. Everyone lives their life at their own pace and in their own way, and that’s okay… just try to better yourself, but don’t be too hard on yourself (I know it's hard) and don’t compare yourself to others..their circumstances are completely different from yours…19 is still really young, your life has basically just begun.
well i was just taking this travel thing as an example, but like for instance, my bestie has a car, a boyfriend, a job and all that.. i just feel extra jealous bc im stuck behind not doing anything.
but at the same time, everyone feels like this in their 20s, running out of time constantly. ppl figure their life out in their 30s, so yes it’s true my life has just begun, but i feel like if i do get up now, then one day ill wake up in my mid 20s and ill be filled with regrets.
BUT LIKE, overthinking and being so anxious like this wont get me anywhere. omg put me in a coma thats it
To be honest, I have similar thoughts almost every day, but you can't let them consume you... it's hard, though
My comment got cut off Anyway. . . I just want to live my life on easy mode.
sounds like peace and i’m all for it
Hey, like I'm in the same situation as you, I'm struggling a lot with procrastination and shit. I mean everyone's cracking exams here I'm just drifting away like idk it sucks. Like i get everyone is accomplishing lots of stuff and all but I think accomplishments are those things that make YOU happy and proud of yourself, not because others are doing but because you are. Like i won a literature fest, it was not a big deal to anyone in my life but i counted it as an accomplishment because I feel more confident in myself. Now obviously I'm gonna say shit like just get up, or you have to believe in yourself but I am gonna say you don't have to fix your life in one like it's not fucking possible (believe me I tried) but I just try a little each day. You can do too, not for others but yourself or your past self because you deserve the best and the best only comes by trying a little more each day.
omg no way u won smth like that?? that must’ve been so fun, hell yeah i’m proud of u too !! im glad ( and sad ) that someone can relate to my rant lol.
i always think either black or white, everything or nothing. and i think that’s why i struggle so much to accept that im moving at my own pace, or to just do anything.
well, i do it to get the fuck up and do smth lol. but it’s really annoying and i’m disappointed in myself because once again, i don’t put in the effort. i always try to find an excuse to not do this or that, instead of trying something.
honestly, id be fine with moving slowly and taking small steps, doing at least one productive thing every day, but thats not the case. i really just, don’t do anything. trying something means stepping out of my comfort zone, i fear change so much yet i crave it even more. and if i keep not trying, one day ill just be filled with regrets. ok sorry i ranted too much im cringing at myself but thanks for ur response, it helped me a lot
Tbh I think your thinking is definitely holding you back. Like believe me ik it's tough to not get into the mindset of all or nothing because of failures, but I don't think every failure is so bad I mean not every action has to be productive! You can just live like a normal human being, you don't have to achieve shit all the time or get out of your comfort zone. Like someone just doesn't push you out of the comfort zone, you just crawl and teeter and eventually cross it without knowing. Like i didn't know how to talk to people like at all, I was a fucking wimp but then someone talked to me, i bored them and pissed them off, i talked to someone but fucked it up. So i fucked up so many times that eventually I started to not...fuck up. And yk for the excuses I use a trick, it's called petty jealousy, like why the heck can that dude be so social than me even though I'm prettier than him??? Like yeah stupid but sometimes it works like i sometimes put bets on others and myself like I'll pay you this much if i don't do this or that and sometimes it works lol. So you just gotta throw all that you think know you about yourself and just jump jump until you land on your feet. Well I'm still falling and failing but I'm doing this all because I want physical copies of all my fav manhwas on my shelf, god knows that expensive.
(Holy shit sorry for the long response)
lmao ure so relatable .
yeah omg i saw a video abt this the other day, that not everything as to be productive. living is enough.
and yeah i also feel like my mindset is holding me back, so i definitely should do something about it.. i think it’s a bit scary that i’ve become so incredibly stressed that i even compare myself to others when i wanna buy clothes. i genuinely get anxious and i have a panic attack bc i wont look good enough like them etc. like bitch stop comparing it won’t get u ANYWHERE .
honestly me too i want to buy so much stuff manga related but in order to do that.. we gotta give it alll. bought litc merch the other day and tears went down my cheeks as i entered my credit card number.
ANYWAY. tysm for ur advices. i really gotta stop overthinking so much and start at least trying anything. and plus, why tf am i comparing myself to ppl on social media when it’s all fake, i gotta do better
FUCK YEAH WE CAN BE RICH FUCK SOCIETY ahem but you're welcome!!! Let's hope both you and I can do better!! All the best!!!
Seabi you're 19 it's normal it's not way weird the people you see traveling all over the world have families that help them financially most people our age are either just joining the work force or still studying, the average 19/20 year old even if they were working can't afford a plane to Japan. And anyway what you see in social media isnt the journey of someone's hard work to have the money to travel just the destination, if you want to travel try with countries near you i think you can get a train from France to most of Europe, you can even try traveling to other cities in your country
i know and that’s the thing . they’re probably all prioritizing going on trips instead of saving money, yet i feel so jealous and sad bc im still not doing anything.
yes im 19 but its already so old. i’m saying like, some people are our age and still do something of their day. even going outside feel productive to me, nobody just stay in bed without doing anything for years, this is ridiculous. i wish i could say that i have accomplished something but i haven’t and that’s the thing that i can’t accept. my brain is turning mushy bc all i do is scroll omg .
even seeing my best friend having a job and doing adult things is amazing to me. a 19 yo should be going forward in life like this. having a job is enough ( at least for me ) to not feel like you’re behind. you still do smth of ur day.
I'm in a similar situation probably worse, I'm 20 but i dropped out during middle school due to severe social anxiety and depression so i don't even have a middle school diploma to start working, my sister started working and she always on trips and I'm low-key jealous af but I'm at a point in my life where i realized everyone has their pace, 19 and 20 may seem big but honestly our life just started we are barely adults and it's okay for us to take our own time taking our first adult steps. You are most likely suffering from depression too so don't beat yourself up, try small if you want to get out of the funk, I didn't got out for years (agoraphobia) and i just recently restarted i mostly got to the fruit marked, my therapist and to get ice cream. So you can try that, small steps ^^
i aspire to be like u sm you don’t even know, im being so for real. i’m really proud and amazed by you accomplishing something so big as going out and doing things that make you happy!
I do hope you can soon start recovery as well I'm honestly just lucky because I get to go to therapy for free because my therapist is friends with my mom therapy honestly should be more affordable it's such a great help
like wym if i fail my exams ill be a first year student for the 3rd year in a row ? and my bestie is going to graduate, i feel like such a loser for not even putting in the effort.
whenever someone wants to help me by gifting me money or even when my bsf wanna help me, i feel so bad because im the problem, im the one who doesn’t have a job and can’t do anything. i feel like such a child. even rn what am i doing with my life ranting abt my life on a damn manga site cuz i have no friends, this is hella ridiculous.
Honestly can't give you a solution all i can say the more you compare yourself to others the more you'll procrastinate because you'll feel like it's already too late when it's not
I KNOW OMG IM PISSING MYSELF OFF my brain is so stupid, i know i shouldn’t compare and that it doesn’t matter anyway because everyone moves at their own pace, but i js feel so behind and there’s absolutely no solution except to try and do something. it’s just my anxiety talking and it’s making me lose my mind. no one has figured out anything at this age