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Am I gay or insecure (repost)
okay so basically I have a best friend of 8 years and we are extremely close and very emotionally dependent on each other, probably not the healthiest thing in the world but its whatever Recently she has had this friend and they have been lowkey crushing on each other For reasons that I don’t understand, this INFURIATES me to unfathomable levels Like seeing them flirt and match pfps and when she calls her and kind of ignores me (not on purpose really) for the night It makes me extremely upset like that SHOULD BE ME and it WAS me at a point bruh I’m not sure if I am just anxious about being replaced or if Im down low for my best friend. We are kinda queerplatonic if I had to put a word for it (she agrees) I just struggle to understand what are romantic feelings and what aren’t AM I GAY OR JUST EXTREMELY INSECURE AND PATHETIC AND SHOULD DIE
i mean it really depends on how you see her. how would u feel if they start dating? would you still wish that was you instead? do you see yourself kissing and doing couples activities with her? if not, maybe you’re just jealous and scared of the thought of being replaced reply
I'm no expert, but I would try to answer some questions before deviding on the answer:
Would you still feel angry if there were no crushes involved? If she was this close with someone which she made clear there is no space for romantic feelings towards/that person would never reciprocate?
Try to think of her other closest platonic bonds. If she di...... reply
It deadass could be both but ur not pathetic its lowkey the sapphic experience . U gotta do some soul searching to figure out if it’s one or the other
But GIRL I FEEL U ON A SPIRITUAL LEVEL i have (had?) a similar relationship like this to my bestie of 10 years pretty queerplatonic pretty homoerotic and we were SO CLOSE extremely close for a fe...... reply
I don't know, but I've felt that before. I thought I was possessive of that person that's why I don't want them interacting too much with another person. But I'm sure I'm not attracted to them romantically reply
ngl i was exactly like this with my bsf at some point until i eventually learned that it was just feelings of admiration and fear of being replaced lol reply
Same with other answers kinda.......almost all of us younger experience this situation at some point with someone. Key is if there is an real romantic interest? Can you truly see yourself in a physical intimate relationship? If not then it is normal admiration, jealousy of losing time with the friend etc that so many of have gone thru as we get ...... reply
