I know adhd is a common mental health issue and people disregard it and didnt take it heavily because of that.
My mom is a psychiatrist and when i told her im struggling with it, she said i dont need it bc its a normal issue. (Im a high functioning autisic and mix dyslexic)
I try to be independent and try going to counseling, therapy, looking for help from people more mature than me and even doing stuff out of my comfort zone but none of it helped. Ofc i never told mom any of it bc she values her image more (and as domeone who works in the medical health field, its not a good look that ur daughter is having mental health issues)
Im 20 now and im still struggling to make choices and taking care of myself and i would always gaslight myself that adhd isnt a thing since everyone just wants to ignore that its a problem
