im about to go to sleep but I cant bc I need to vent my frustration about this.
it all starts on friday when my friend invites me for a 'girls night' at a restaurant with her friends. promptly after that she messages me and says plans are moved to saturday because she planned something else with her friends at a bar, she still says I can come but I wasnt in the mood to meet new people so I declined.
come saturday, im getting ready and putting a good amount of effort into my appearance because the restaurant we were supposed to go to was fancy asf. as im about to go my friend messages and asks me to come to another location (her friends house), I was confused but agreed since I thought it would just be a quick stop there. I pull up and immediately clock that my friend is in sweatpants and a t-shirt, not exactly restaurant attire. I go into the house and theres 6 mf guys there that I have never met in my life. I question her about the restaurant and she says she ordered pizza. I proceed to eat my 2 measly slices and gtfo out of there
it was a bum ass hangout that I didnt even sign up for and im so mad I wasted my time. And yes, she explicitly told me 'we can still go out on saturday', so there was no room for a misunderstanding. Im also just disappointed in her because im always adjusting my plans for HER sake.
It feels good releasing this out of my system because I was genuinely trying not to crashout the whole day
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She is making plans with other people and keeping you as a second option
also thought this and ur probably right. It would've been better if she just didnt want to hangout with me period. could've been more productive with my time
Yea ik it sucks when ppl do this honestly I would confront her first if you still see her as a close friend if not start to distance yourself and stay acquaintances speaking from experience ppl who do this do not give a fuckkkk about you and will put you in uncomfortable situations.
forgot this but she also lied to me about it being said friends house because she knew I was not gonna stop at some dude named Jeff's house. quite literally lured me into a trap
….yeah it is DEFINITELY time to reconsider your relationship with her, if you’re having trouble try writing up a pros and cons list of your friendship, the pros are the good things about your relationship, the things you like about being friends with her specifically and the nice things she has done or maybe still does for you, and the cons are things like this, things you don’t like about your relationship, things that she does that you don’t like, and not so nice things she has done or maybe still does. If you haven’t already, sit down with her in person, make sure it’s just the two of you, during the daytime (so no drinking), and have a serious conversation with her about the things she has done and said that made you feel like she didn’t care about your friendship and upset you/made you feel disrespected or lied to, tell her that those things upset because maybe she’s really dense and genuinely didn’t know that those things upset you like that and maybe she didn’t intend it that way. Ask her what she wants from your friendship and tell her what you want out of the friendship to figure out if you guys are on the same page about how you both see the relationship and each other, whether it’s best friends or more casual friends who occasionally hangout. Give her a chance to talk and explain herself (that is if she didn’t know these things upset you, didn’t mean to make you upset, and is genuinely sorry that her actions and words caused you to feel that way, although still let her talk for a little bit even if she’s not just so you know where she stands and how she sees you, might make the final decision of whether to end the friendship or not easier), and maybe it was just a case of miscommunication/misunderstanding and your friendship is still salvageable. But if you tell her how you genuinely feel and what you want out of the relationship (being sure you say it in a way that it’s about how YOU feel about her actions that is causing the rift and not her actions that is the problem, because that could very easily become guilt trip territory otherwise and she could accuse you of making her out to be some villain), and she isn’t receptive and doesn’t care that you are upset, especially if she tells “it’s not that deep/serious, oh my god”, even after you explained everything about how you’re feeling to her, then you know that your relationship is not salvageable and it’s better to just end it than let it painfully drag out and prolong your hurting.