I’m like pretty sure I have social anxiety (said by 2 psychiatrists, but my mom doesn’t wanna bring me to get diagnosed anymore cause she thinks she knows better than them). I only experience it like sometimes tho, it’s so confusing and it’s got me debating if I actually have it or not. Eg: I get super duper nervous when I have to text someone, such as businesses. Eg: But, I don’t mind debating in front of 6 people, 4 of which I don’t know. Eg: But, I get super anxious when I walk out airports due to the amount of people waiting to pick someone up, I hate getting stared at and I feel that they’re like eyeing me? Eg: I can talk to new people most the times, such as a new classmate or sometimes a shop worker Eg: But, I can’t talk to my own family without getting super nervous
errr i find it a bit weird tbh, cuz social anxiety is more like, the fear of being rejected by individuals, or the fear of being judged. whereas you don’t seem to care about that? it looks like shyness to be honest. interacting with individuals shouldn’t be easy for you if you have social anxiety.. or so that’s what i think .
how does social anxiety affects your life if you have no problem interact with people and strangers too?
Interacting with people is hard for me in some cases. I used to not have any friends from g5 just cause I was too scared of my classmates, I still kinda am but less. I can talk to them tho so that’s good. Eg: as I’ve mentioned before, I can’t text any businesses or basically anyone new online (except on some forums tho). I wanted to get speech therapy and I argued with my sister for like 40minutes because I was too scared to text them, she offered to text them from her number but I wouldn’t let her unless she rephrased the sentence completely to make it not sound like it was from me (Idk how they’d know, but I’m just sure they’d know it was me and judge me for it). Eg2: I was set in a group at an event where we were supposed to make friends and everyone was talking but I was literally the only silent one. I only talked when someone asked me to do something so… Yea didn’t really make friends there. Also, all my friends only became friends with me because they initiated a convo with me first, if they didn’t, than I would have 0 friends
How I see it affects my life is because I think it really hinders the way I make friends. I can talk to people, but only if they talk to me first (or if I have to, obviously). Also, where social anxiety plays a huge role in is around my family, I am DEATHLY scared of interacting with most of them unless they talk to me first (except my cousin).
Interacting with people is hard for me in some cases. I used to not have any friends from g5 just cause I was too scared of my classmates, I still kinda am but less. I can talk to them tho so that’s good.Eg: ... Ariya
well like i said in my previous comment, i really think it seems more like shyness than social anxiety. interacting with people is a fundamental part of social anxiety, it’s not about whether or not you talk to them first, but if you can handle a conversation with strangers without feeling like you’re about to pass out from panic. like think of it as a very heavy weight on your chest or a bad stomachache, you know? from what i can understand, you stated that you feel uncomfortable and you can’t really go to people to make friends. which i think that it’s shyness, small talks and going to people first takes a lot of courage/strength however it doesn’t necessarily mean you have an anxiety disorder.
i’ve been diagnosed with social anxiety due to trauma since i was like.. 15~, and i also experience the same kind of problem when it comes to my family. i see social anxiety as a problem that make you feel panicked 24/7. not being able to hold eye contact, the fear of being seen and judged by everyone including friends and family, and all the ‘what if’s’ questions that pop up in ur head whenever you have to socialize with individuals.
anyway, what i’m saying is, i honestly don’t think you suffer from an anxiety disorder, experiencing social anxiety is normal and in your case you’re very scared to interact with your family, which is a form of social anxiety in a way. that said, i don’t think it’s wise to diagnose you with a disorder when you don’t fully experience it. psychiatrists won’t help you, they will put you on a treatment, but im not sure if it’s the proper way to deal with your shyness/anxiety. you should definitely go see a therapist to perhaps talk about why you experience such feelings when it comes to your family, they can help you deal with it and feel a little bit more comfortable.
obviously that’s just my opinion, but errr if your mom doesn’t want you to go seek a psychiatrist, there’s nothing you can do… especially if you’re a minor, usually, you need your parents’ authorization to be on a treatment.
also this is purely just my experience but so you have an idea what social anxiety is, i tend to isolate myself because everytime i try to do anything that involves socializing with individuals, my heart starts racing and i have a panic attack. i can’t even buy clothes ( online as well ) because i think of how much people are gonna judge me for what im wearing. if your situation gets worse, don’t hesitate to go seek help, it can get to my point and to an even worse point : agoraphobia
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errr i find it a bit weird tbh, cuz social anxiety is more like, the fear of being rejected by individuals, or the fear of being judged. whereas you don’t seem to care about that? it looks like shyness to be honest. interacting with individuals shouldn’t be easy for you if you have social anxiety.. or so that’s what i think .
how does social anxiety affects your life if you have no problem interact with people and strangers too?
Interacting with people is hard for me in some cases. I used to not have any friends from g5 just cause I was too scared of my classmates, I still kinda am but less. I can talk to them tho so that’s good.
Eg: as I’ve mentioned before, I can’t text any businesses or basically anyone new online (except on some forums tho). I wanted to get speech therapy and I argued with my sister for like 40minutes because I was too scared to text them, she offered to text them from her number but I wouldn’t let her unless she rephrased the sentence completely to make it not sound like it was from me (Idk how they’d know, but I’m just sure they’d know it was me and judge me for it).
Eg2: I was set in a group at an event where we were supposed to make friends and everyone was talking but I was literally the only silent one. I only talked when someone asked me to do something so… Yea didn’t really make friends there.
Also, all my friends only became friends with me because they initiated a convo with me first, if they didn’t, than I would have 0 friends
How I see it affects my life is because I think it really hinders the way I make friends. I can talk to people, but only if they talk to me first (or if I have to, obviously). Also, where social anxiety plays a huge role in is around my family, I am DEATHLY scared of interacting with most of them unless they talk to me first (except my cousin).
well like i said in my previous comment, i really think it seems more like shyness than social anxiety. interacting with people is a fundamental part of social anxiety, it’s not about whether or not you talk to them first, but if you can handle a conversation with strangers without feeling like you’re about to pass out from panic. like think of it as a very heavy weight on your chest or a bad stomachache, you know?
from what i can understand, you stated that you feel uncomfortable and you can’t really go to people to make friends. which i think that it’s shyness, small talks and going to people first takes a lot of courage/strength however it doesn’t necessarily mean you have an anxiety disorder.
i’ve been diagnosed with social anxiety due to trauma since i was like.. 15~, and i also experience the same kind of problem when it comes to my family. i see social anxiety as a problem that make you feel panicked 24/7. not being able to hold eye contact, the fear of being seen and judged by everyone including friends and family, and all the ‘what if’s’ questions that pop up in ur head whenever you have to socialize with individuals.
anyway, what i’m saying is, i honestly don’t think you suffer from an anxiety disorder, experiencing social anxiety is normal and in your case you’re very scared to interact with your family, which is a form of social anxiety in a way. that said, i don’t think it’s wise to diagnose you with a disorder when you don’t fully experience it. psychiatrists won’t help you, they will put you on a treatment, but im not sure if it’s the proper way to deal with your shyness/anxiety. you should definitely go see a therapist to perhaps talk about why you experience such feelings when it comes to your family, they can help you deal with it and feel a little bit more comfortable.
obviously that’s just my opinion, but errr if your mom doesn’t want you to go seek a psychiatrist, there’s nothing you can do… especially if you’re a minor, usually, you need your parents’ authorization to be on a treatment.
if you want to learn more about social anxiety you can read the DMS-5
https://socialanxietyinstitute.org/dsm-definition-social-anxiety-disorder
also this is purely just my experience but so you have an idea what social anxiety is, i tend to isolate myself because everytime i try to do anything that involves socializing with individuals, my heart starts racing and i have a panic attack. i can’t even buy clothes ( online as well ) because i think of how much people are gonna judge me for what im wearing.
if your situation gets worse, don’t hesitate to go seek help, it can get to my point and to an even worse point : agoraphobia