asexual grievances

does anyone else feel like theyve become more of a degenerate pervert the older theyve gotten? my tastes/desires have become more defined and intense over time (nothing crazy, just semi unusual compared to vanillas) and im not entirely sure what to do with this energy because im on the asexual spectrum and not interested in sex itself. i like ds dynamics, but i dont have interest in taking off my clothes.. i feel like a weird freak in comparison to my somewhat pure girlfriend. i dont know how to speak to her about exploring sexual parts of our relationship. i like sexual tension and i want to dive more into that aspect, but it feels weird since we both take on more of a cuddly affectionate approach with eachother. i consider myself vers but i lean sub, and she is also on the more submissive side. putting thay aside guyd how do we feel about dry humping? and how do i talk to my girlfriend about wanting to lean a little more sexual without having sex when i cant really explain it properly to her... i feel like ive been pent up for so long and now that i finally trust someone, theres so many things i want to do!! but a lot of what i want isnt really in eachothers nature.. help me pls im 19 and an asexual virgin pervert loser who, although thirsty, does not want penetrative sex and would prefer everyone stay clothed or covered where it matters