Im in my last year of university but I currently live at home but I’ve had to deal with the fact that she is freaky with finances and borders finically abusive. we aren’t exactly that well off we have a lot of debt but I have a roof under my head which is great but I cant put up with this bullshit anymore I’m on the verge of dropping out I need to leave
I don’t have any access to my credit cards or my own bank account but I do know she uses them. im not allowed to have a car (she claims we can’t afford it but I don’t know if I fully believe that )
she takes my school refunds and does god knows what with them and she made me take out loans without a co-signer as a punishment . I’m so beyond salty when my friends parents help them pay for school when I struggle every semester, I put my textbooks on the credit cards crying have no idea if they’re paid or not she probably has trashed my credit score
she uses money as a leverage for things she wants she only bought me strings for my violin only after i threatened to quit the symphony when ive been begging her for months to do it they were literally unraveling. have to ask for express premission to even buy anything.
I’ve briefly moved out but at the time I had a job and moved out for other reasons and she still had access to everything, my dad is a doormat and just lets it happen but she keeps him in the dark about the credit cards and debt How have yall been married for 30 years what the actual hell I want to leave this hell but will probably have to get a job first
