is it ok to leave a person i love just because my family hates himThere was a major issue regarding cybercrime in our school and it caused my family reputation including mine to be tarnished for that bit of time they think he had something to do with it but as of what I know it wasn't him because he was in flames tooIt was some girl but she had backing from the school and wasn't punished and so my parents hate both of them thinking they were in cahootsIt's been over a year and the old aunties of society have given my mom different kinds of rumors about him and his familyAbout him taking drugs his brothers borrowing money etc... and yes we're still dating in secret its been 2 yearsI'm in year 1 of uni... both of us are...I'm in a foreign country rn but even back home for some reason my mom would always find out about the lies and today we spoke to my dad and he was like we both will never ever accept him... the day they find out were in contacts they wi stop talking to meI love him so much... I can't bear to leave him what should I sayhow do i solve the shame that I've put my family through by still being in contact with my boyfriend that they hate because he's a horrible person
They called him and forced us to break up... my dad won't speak to me anymore and my family says I've put myself down infront of them and I honestly dk what to do...
well is he actually a horrible person? you seem to love him very much and love can make us blind. especially towards men sis. knowing him since high school and pull the blindfold tighter. i’m not saying your parents are right but i don’t want you to blindly go back to him. investigate their concerns to see if any hold weight. and if they don’t then you have to make a choice. if you don’t stand up to your parents now you might never. if you can showthat he isn’t the root of these problems (if he actually isn’t..) and they still have a problem with him then they actually have a problem with you and that’s a family issue that will take effort to fix. and unfortunately if you want them to be in your life you have to be the one putting in most of the effort. but remember you have worth and don’t let them walk all over you (whether he did shit or not you have worth outside of him too and they should respect you more than they do). sorry this got long. good luck bestie
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well is he actually a horrible person? you seem to love him very much and love can make us blind. especially towards men sis. knowing him since high school and pull the blindfold tighter. i’m not saying your parents are right but i don’t want you to blindly go back to him. investigate their concerns to see if any hold weight. and if they don’t then you have to make a choice. if you don’t stand up to your parents now you might never. if you can showthat he isn’t the root of these problems (if he actually isn’t..) and they still have a problem with him then they actually have a problem with you and that’s a family issue that will take effort to fix. and unfortunately if you want them to be in your life you have to be the one putting in most of the effort. but remember you have worth and don’t let them walk all over you (whether he did shit or not you have worth outside of him too and they should respect you more than they do).
sorry this got long. good luck bestie